My MIL and I have had a few issues throughout out relationship, She looks after DD and DS one afternoon a week. It used to be a full day and sometime 2 a week when they were younger but now theyre at school, its less. My issue is the non stop spoiling, and disregard for anything i ask her to do or nt to do. I totally understnad that grans like to spoil the kid s a bit, give them sweeties and stuff but my MIL is scared to say no to them.. about anything and tnh it had created a monster. Their behaviour when she is looking after them is shocking. they revert into toddlers , having tantrums and crying. they are 6 and 7. She told me a few years ago oh i just dont like saying no. So screen time is a big bug bear for me. I really hate the thought of the kids sitting stuck to ipads all day but that it what happens when she is with them. Ive asked her to take them form them after an hour but she doenst do it because they kick off. This has been going on from they were babies when she brought chocolate everywhere to get them to do things such as leave the park or get inot their prams and it really annoyed me becaus eno one else needed to take these measures! the kids are generally well behaved and respecatful at home and at school and its only with her they react this way. There have been so many issues i have bit my tongue over through the years where she has went against what i have asked with the kids. She is a very controlling defensive person and approaching her about it would end up in WW3. Does anyone else have this problem and how did they deal with it? I think that maybe her lack of any discipline, bribery and never syaing no has lead to the kids having no rspect for her and i feel bad that this has happened. The thing is tho when i tell them off for such behaviour in front of her she gets rallly arsey and desfensive and goe sin a huff. cant win :(