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Summer party for child born in winter.

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Withnailandaye · 31/07/2019 18:29

Dds birthday is a couple of days before Christmas. She'll be 5 on her next birthday.
She keeps mentioning wanting a bday party but I'm not sure if people would be available to come to a birthday party just before Christmas.

Me and her dad have been discussing throwing a 'summer' party for her next year. Just so she gets to have a party, it'll be nice weather and people will more likely to be free (it won't be in the summer holidays, more like the half term before).

Anyone done anything like this before or has any advice?

Dd is my only child so new to all this.

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Withnailandaye · 31/07/2019 18:33

Oh and fwiw.

I do think she just wants a party. She's been to a few others and just keeps saying party.
She went to her grandads party the other day and was maybe a little bit jealous

I don't think she'll care that it's not her actual birthday, we'll explain its just a party and of course we'll make a fuss on her birthday.

It's just a shame as her birthday always seems to be over shadowed by Christmas.

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user1493413286 · 31/07/2019 18:34

I think that would be a bit of a confusing concept for a child of that age and if she wants one for her birthday it’s a long time to wait. Why not do one the first week of January? People will be pleased to come as January isn’t exactly busy for social events (generally).

BookWitch · 31/07/2019 18:36

When my dd was at preschool, her friend's birthday was Xmas day, her mum always had a half birthday party for her in June. No one ever had a problem with it, we even bought presents! This was the 1990s though - etiquette might have changed!

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Desmondo2016 · 31/07/2019 18:37

I've got kids with Christmas birthdays and I've also had a friend who did, and did the summer party thing which always had an air of fakeness about it to me.

Personally we embrace their birthdays on the right day because, well, it's their birthday! With a bit of notice there'll definitely be plenty of friends able to come in my experience x

Hoppinggreen · 31/07/2019 18:37

My DD’s birthday is 23rd December.
When she was born lots of people said we should have her party in summer or similar BUT we never have and sets had some great parties with virtually everyone turning up.
It’s up to you but we’ve managed fine for 14 years, the presents do get a bit much but apart from that a summer party has never been necessary.
Also, because it’s December we know the weather will be bad and plan accordingly whereas anyone with an outdoor party planned this week would be in trouble !

OhFuckingLisaMorgan · 31/07/2019 18:38

My June DD didn't want a birthday party so we are waiting until October to have a Halloween one instead!

dementedpixie · 31/07/2019 18:39

My nephew has a christmas eve birthday and his parties were quite popular as parents used to drop their kids and then go and do last minute Christmas prep! Or you could have it a week or so earlier than her birthday

Badabingbadabum · 31/07/2019 18:40

Why just ask a few friends over, play some games, have a picnic in the garden. That way there is no candles, presents confusion.

PixieLumos · 31/07/2019 18:40

Fine I suppose - but you’re not expecting presents right? You’re daughter is one of many though who deal with this - otherwise ‘summer parties’ would surely be more of a thing.

FortyFacedFuckers · 31/07/2019 18:43

My DS birthday is Christmas Day, I have always had parties for him on the weekend that falls around a week-10 days before his birthday, as long as you get the invites out early parents tend to be glad to get rid of them for a few hours to get some last minute shopping/wrapping done!

Sauvignonblanket · 31/07/2019 18:45

My nephew does this and has a party in the middle of summer. I'm not sure he 100% got the concept but loves the event and it's always well attended.

Yellowcar2 · 31/07/2019 18:47

My DC has a birthday days after Christmas we tend to just do a friends party a couple of weeks before. Weather is a pain though so always has to be something in doors. Then just family and cake on actual day.

Mumof1andacat · 31/07/2019 18:50

I'm born on 27th. Never had a summer birthday. Just had a family gathering on my actual birthday and a party a few days after xmas or new year.

Haggisfish · 31/07/2019 18:55

Actually I have found lots of people are available, and happy to have something to do that is not Christmas related! Dc born 28 dec and have had party between Xmas and new year.

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Withnailandaye · 31/07/2019 19:10

Ah ok this is good news.
Her birthday is on the 22nd so I had it in my head that people would have too much to do then.. but I suppose the party would only last a couple of hours anyway so it's not like it would be a whole day thing.

And no wouldn't be expecting presents if we were to throw a summer party haha.
Was thinking of maybe putting something on the invites stating that its a summer party, not a birthday party just so there's no confusion about that.

I might just do her a proper birthday this year and see how it goes!

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Livebythecoast · 31/07/2019 19:32

I know what you mean. My DD15 was born a few days before Christmas so like you, always over shadowed by Christmas. I always made sure her birthday was separate by throwing a party which was difficult given that everyone else was 'in the Christmas spirit '
This year, as she'll be turning 16 in December, we had a 'Summer gathering' so although it wasn't her birthday party, she still had a party exclusively to her. Obviously she's much older than your DD so as long as your DD understands it's a Summer party but still acknowledging it's about her.
I do empathise, I've always felt sorry for My DD especially when people thought it was okay to wrap her birthday presents in Christmas paper. 😡.

Haggisfish · 31/07/2019 20:49

Ah you see, it worked quite well for my friend who had birthday on 27th-everyone came back to home town for Christmas for years and years after we had all left and moved away, so all our friends were together for her birthday far more than any of the rest of us!

Gloschick · 31/07/2019 20:54

My son was invited to a lido birthday party in June/July for a friend who's birthday was in January. It was great. If you are born in winter you never get to have parties like that. No one really cared that it wasn't their actual birthday.

Neolara · 31/07/2019 20:59

My ds's birthday is just after Xmas and we've tried lots of different times for parties. In my experience, a party just before Xmas goes down very well. Parents are delighted to get rid of the dc for an afternoon as they can head off to the shops for some present buying.

Bridgeofpies · 31/07/2019 21:02

I would just do it around her birthday! My DD’s birthday is the week before Xmas and we have always done her party the weekend before Xmas. Generally it’s been fine. We usually put on some mince pies and mulled wine for any parents who want to stay. With plenty of notice it’s never been a problem.

One year we did her birthday in early Jan and that was OK too but it didn’t feel quite right being in the next month and even year!

Tiredmum100 · 31/07/2019 21:06

One of my sons was born on 28th December. I tend to have his partys in the first week of January, everyone is back to school and something to look forward to when all the Christmas things are done and dusted!

prisscalledwanda · 31/07/2019 21:54

Many years ago now, but I'm a Christmas Eve birthday and sometimes had summer birthday parties instead. I didn't notice not having one at the time of my birthday because it was Christmas, and when the time came I was excited. I'm pretty sure all my friends were excited to go to a party and didn't care about the date accuracy. No idea what parents thought but I'd imagine happy not to be squeezing something else into the run up to Christmas.

I'm sure they were positioned as 'priss's belated birthday party', I must have had a cake and candles as would not have accepted missing out there. Can't remember if I got presents or not, I think I did but perhaps not from everyone. I loved it!

The other benefit is it spreads the fun out - otherwise it's a long wait till next December when you're only five or six... give it a go!

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