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Should I feel guilty?

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Imbananas · 31/07/2019 15:01

Hi everyone! I became part of this group along with other mums. Everyone started playing asking about having more children. The majority have at least two kids and some say they would like more children in the near future. One lady said she has three under 4 and that she is planning the fourth child.
I feel guilty for not being able to give my son a sibling.
We had to go through IVF to be able to have our son. We were lucky as I got pregnant from the first try. This cycle was paid for by the NHS. We just can’t afford to pay for an IVF treatment at the moment and so we decided not to have more children.

Also nursery fees are very high and we have been struggling for the last three years. Getting there bit by bit. I always wanted to work and wanted DS to go to nursery as it is beneficial for both of us.

Should I feel guilty? Should I make an effort and pay for the treatment? That might put us into debt but would give DS a sibling hopefully. I feel really sad as I don’t want DS to be alone when we are not going to be here anymore. 😔

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SmartPlay · 31/07/2019 15:21

No, you should certainly not feel guilty. There are advantages and disadvantages for all constellations and number of children.

You should try to have another child, if you and your partner want more children. Having another child so that you son won't be alone, is a very bad reason. Also, you don't know if they'd get along anyway.

You can also look into adoption or long-term fostering, if you want more children.

Imbananas · 31/07/2019 17:31

Thank you! X

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