Started potty training at end of April when DS was 2.10. By the end of June we had slight improvement in that we were taking him to the toilet hourly and he was wee-ing. He has never asked for a wee with the exception of when he gets in the bath or 3 or 4 times within an hour of getting into bed he has shouted down to us that he needs the toilet, I take him and he wees - so there is awareness there. I often take him in the day and and he can wet himself 10/20 mins after being taken, I ask him to make sure everything is out and he insists "there's nothing left in the tank!"
We went through weeks of withholding poo's for days. Then only going on the potty in front of the the television, within days he worked out that he could use this as an excuse to sit and watch TV for long periods without producing anything. Within 30 mins of taking him of he would do it in his pants.
Then we switched to only doing it on the toilet (with training seat), he was allowed to read a book, again he would then sit for ages and not do anything, we would get him off and he would go in his pants.
Tried rewards such as stickers, chocolate, toys or getting to watch a cartoon afterward, nothing seems to motivate him, if anything it seems to provoke a tantrum that he can't have them now. Poo Goes to Poland App failed, he just wanted to watch it on the phone while sitting on the toilet for up to an hour doing nothing - again when we took him off he would poo in pants within 30/45 mins. I have put a stop to him sitting for as long as he wants to try and making the visits shorter (if he hasn't done anything in 5/10 mins then he has to get off) this seems to have made no difference.
He has now regressed to up to 5 poo accidents a day. He seems totally passive in the process, will not talk about it, will deny he has done it in his pants. He will sit on the toilet and make no effort to push it out. He will (sorry this is gross) let it hang out his bum and deny it's there - for this reason we cannot go back to no pants as he will ignore what is happening and let it smear everywhere.
I mentioned to the nursery that I was thinking of going back to pullups but still taking him to the toilet for my own sanity, their view is that it would be a mistake.
I never thought I would cry about poo but I have. I also have a 10 month old so am trying to juggle him as well. My husband and I are arguing about the best way to proceed - we are at a total loss.
Please someone help or give us some ideas/hope/anything........