If your child has a birthmark does EVERYONE bloody comment on it?

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My DD has a strawberry birthmark on her face, high up on her forehead. She's had it since she was about 2 weeks old and every bloody day (it feels like) since then someone or multiple people have commented on it. WHY?!

I don't really mind to an extent, I suppose it's just like commenting on a hair colour or something but it's just unnecessary. They often either ask if it's an injury or a birthmark or say something like 'oh don't worry it might go away'

I don't know why it annoys me, I'm not the type to get annoyed at people's small talk generally (oh your bump is small/massive/high/low etc etc never really bothered me)...

Anyone else in the same boat?

Dd had a strawberry one on her chin/cheek which eventually went. Lots of comments, it does get trying, she was never really fussed by the attention and it had gone before she started school.

I have a small but significant birthmark on my face which people comment on, young children tend to go "ET" on me and point or gently touch while saying "ouch" bless them. Doesn't bother me, had it all my life and it's not prevented me from doing anything.

I did at one point have a friend of a friend who went on and on about having plastic surgery to remove it, she even photoshopped pics of me to show me how great I'd look without it 🤔 THAT was annoying because

A it was never something that bothered me

B where it is would be very risky to mess about with

C I can't afford to go private and I wouldn't get something purely cosmetic done on Nhs even if they were willing to which I'm sure they wouldn't be!

I eventually had to say something to her, I forget what exactly but basically "look I know you mean well (not sure I believed that bit) but seriously stop going on about it, I've had it all my life and most people mention it once if that when I meet them and then it's forgotten can you please just drop it" she muttered on about "just trying to help" and I was like "just drop it!" And she didn't mention it again. I don't see her any more anyway now thank goodness.

Dds friends when she had hers still just took it in their stride, thanks to mostly sensible parents explaining it was just a funny bit of skin in a different colour and reassured them it wasn't sore for her (which was usually their main concern anyway)

It's tough I know but unless anyone is especially rude/offensive just brush it off and change the topic of conversation.

Yep I'm in the exact same position as you op and can relate!

My 2 personal worst experiences:

Old woman pulling g face of disgust and then saying "what's happened to his head?!"

Old man expressing his relief when he learned it'll fade to nothing by the time my baby turns 6 years old. "Oh that's good otherwise he'd have to grow his hair long to cover that part of his forehead or permanently wear a hat".

So rude! My beautiful baby! I personally love his red mark and it's a part of who he is.

YANBU. DD1 had a strawberry naevus on her head and a reddish mark on her ear as a baby and people's questions were annoying. Particularly when people thought it was an injury.

Tbh I think people just comment because they're curious (even if it's a bit rude).. DC has rather large birthmark on body that's grown since birth and was monitored every 12mths till teen (now 20, so we're all clearly no longer inspecting 😯). The offer of a skin graft was made whilst younger but frankly would have resulted in two scar zones and it's not the choice I'd ever have wanted to make for someone else outside of their own body decision.

Dd (8) has one on her leg. Looks like a bruise/graze from a distance. We will hopefully get it lasered because it bleeds like crazy when scratched. Tends to be adults, particularly older women, who comment. She knows they ask her about it because they are concerned. No longer bothers her enough not to wear shorts/ skirts.

DS has two birthmarks - on his eyelid and the back of his neck. They have faded as he's got older but were quite livid when he was little. We often had questions about the one on his eye because it looked like a fading bruise. You can only really see that one now if he's tired. I got a bit fed up of people asking if my baby had a black eye though!