Contraception making someone different?

[DaddyDaycare2019]

My wife and I had a beautiful baby boy in May. Two years prior we had a little girl and now that we have one of each my wife was considering different forms of contraception just to make sure we don’t have any happy little surprises anytime soon.
The last week I had noticed that DW has been short tempered, snappy, argumentative, needlessly mean where it isn’t warranted, really not herself. We are a very harmonious couple, always get on, never really argue, laugh and joke etc, and she is the sweetest and most lovely person you could ever meet- but strong willed and stands her ground.
This week has been awful, I feel emotionally drained. I thought I had done something to upset her, or anger her, but it turns out she had started contraceptives from the GP a week ago!
She doesn’t seem to realise that her mood has been off.
Has anyone else experienced this? I don’t want to offend her by asking her to see the GP about changing the meds, but I don’t know how to cope without saying something to her?

I dont think contraception would kick in so soon! Usually its at least a single period cycle before hormones really start messing up lol! It must be something else...

Is she taking cerazette by any chance? That made me crazy in just a week. I could feel the anger inside it was really weird. I was aware of it though myself.
I think all you can do is ask her gently if anything is wrong, pills can take a while to settle so it may pass or it may be something else entirely in which case asking her may get you a different answer!

I experienced this with the Pill. I was murderous after a week of taking it. I persevered another week and became suicidal. It was really scary how much it changed me. I was angry permanently. I would sit and visibly seethe and I had no idea what I was angry about.

I went on the pill after DS was born and came straight off it as it sent me deranged and physically feeling ill. I instantly felt better as soon as I stopped taking it.

I'd buy some condoms and tell her not to worry about it for now.

I had this after switching to a different pill. I cried on my boyfriend at the time after an angry outburst for no reason. Switched back and was absolutely fine. If she wants to stay on a hormone contraceptive suggest her going for a review. If not switch to condoms for a while and go from there

The same happened to me. I started the pill in my teens and stayed on it until a year before trying for my first child at the age of 29. It was like night and day when I stopped taking it. I'd been on it so long I never knew that I wasn't a naturally depressed, anxious, short tempered, snappy person. My husband and I were both amazed and shocked by how much happier and calmer I was off the pill.

I briefly tried to go back on it this year (my son is now 2), stupidly thinking it might be different this time, but I was back to my 'old self' within 2 weeks of starting it. We both agreed i'd never use the pill again.

You and your wife sound like a lovely couple. Do talk to her and just say that you're concerned how this pill seems to be affecting her. She may insist on sticking it out for a while longer though to see if things settle down, so be prepared for that. The GP may tell her to do the same. It's futile but it's something they often suggest 3 - 6 months is their go-to time frame when it comes to trialling a new pill, in my experience!

Use some condoms or get a vasectomy if you are finished procreating. Give her a much needed break from hormones.

Really common on different forms of the pill. It's never affected me but it makes some of my friends totally different.

I'd change to something else, in my experience the mood part settles but not back to how people usually are.

Be very sure before you go blaming it on hormones. Because (and I'm not saying this is necessarily the case with you) having a very small baby and a toddler, doing all the night time wake ups, and having a husband that doesn't pull his weight around the house will do this she says bitterly. Are you sure she doesn't have grounds for being pissed off?

Its not Rigevidon by any chance is it? That stuff ruined my life within a week of taking it and after a month of sheer hell and becoming a monster, I was swapped onto Cerazette/Cerelle.

I was also going to ask if it was Rigevidon. I took Microgynon for years, GP switched me to Rigevidon which was apparently the same under a different brand name. Within a week I was a different, depressed, angry person.

I was also going to ask if it was Rigevidon. I took Microgynon for years, GP switched me to Rigevidon which was apparently the same under a different brand name. Within a week I was a different, depressed, angry person.

Couldnt agree more with @DJS88 Did exactly the same to me! I came off the pill altogether and my husband just used condoms. Honestly encourage her to be synthetic hormone free, that stuff really makes you a mess.

Wow, DH.

When you said you were going to post a thread about me on Mumsnet, I thought you were joking.

Please note, everyone, that the contraception isn't making me different. It's more to do with me having to go back to work full time 8wks pp and still being me getting up all night with DC2. DH deleted the app when I found this so I don't know if he'll be back but I wanted to get the story straight. As PP's have suggested, why don't you get the snip or wear condoms? Because the first one would hurt according to you and you don't like condoms. Give me a break. No, DH, it's not the contraception, it's you.

And I'm not joking, @MNHQ can check me out and I can give them the email DH used for his account to prove I'm not lying.

I'm not sure how quick the effect would be but I can say with definite certainty that being on the pill made me mildly crazy - not severely, but definitely a bit crazy. As soon as I came off it I changed back to my normal self. I snapped too quickly and lost my patience too quick and wouldn't let things drop. Was never like that before or after the pill.

Gosh, that wasn't what I expected.

Maybe @wellthanksforthat you need a thread in relationships of your own.

Oops, this is awkward

Good for you wellthanks - maybe he’ll get the message. Why is everything always our bloody responsibility?

He won’t get the snip because it will hurt? Yes, my twin pregnancy and emergency section were like being licked by puppies.

This is quite eye opening though isn’t it - are men really so oblivious to the shit we are dealing with?

It is a bit isn't it @hungryhippie

@SinkGirl apparently!

Also, completely wrong board DH.