Tell me how your friendships changed or new ones you’ve found after having kids (the good, the bad)

[Zenlifeforme]

I have a DD, 9 month old, utterly in love. I’ve really noticed how my friendships have changed since she came along (some enchanced, some friends have completely scarpered 🏃‍♀️ 😲), and how much I rely/need other mum friends, which are budding slowly.
Just wanted to hear other people’s experiences of their existing friendships after having kids, how they changed and also how, if any, you ended up with new ones.
If you feel like sharing 😉

I have made a lot of effort to make new mum friends since having DS especially as I'm a SAHM. Some of my pre-kids friends have now gone on to have kids so we have even more in common now and as some of them work part time we can still meet up. It's a lot harder with my no-kids friends. They work full time and though they like seeing DS occasionally I get that they don't share the same level of interest as those with kids do. Plus weekends for us are generally family time as DH often works away. They also prefer to meet for night outs which can also be more problematic.

I have made some fantastic friends through having children. Some really good probably life friends who have children the same age as mine.

However I also have friendships which are not as close as they were. I have two friends in particular who just don’t like children and I try and see them without the children but they want to do things that I can’t afford or don’t worry with s family set up where you have to be up at 6am etc (ie going clubbing at 11pm - 4am or hugely expensive meals.) I try not to let it slide but I do have to see them less. At the moment our live are different. It’s made sad on a few occasions.

Or don’t “work” not worry.

Unfortunately my good friends had a hard time I think as I had 3 kids in the end but one went through IVF but it didn’t work for them, one finally had a child after many miscarriages, one friend had secondary infertility, one is single (and probably the one who most keeps in touch regularly funnily). We are all still friends and slowly coming back together but life does change. I hate it as I’ve not made many mum friends so I’d encourage you making the most out of antenatal and baby clubs!

I have made the best and loveliest friends since having children, OP. Mine (and theirs) are now late teens, but my friends are the best thing in the world. Most of us met at baby/toddler groups, then school. I do still have good friends who pre-date DC, but the DC friends are the best.