Hi everyone, first time posting.
Myself and my 8 year old moved into an apartment block 4 months ago. Initially, my son made a great group of friends but over the past month, 1 of them has taken it upon himself to turn on my son and turn all but 3 of the rest of the complex against him. They mock how he speaks, his hair, his clothes (I'm a single mother and while he doesn't always wear brand name clothes, hes clean and tidy). My boy is very sensitive and as a previous victim of bullying, I know how hard it is to stand up for yourself.
I checked his tablet last night and saw they had been messaging him on a video app he uses. Kids stuff but mean so its not just when he is outside.
My balcony looks out on the complex playground and while my son was in the playground with his friends, the gang of 6 (boys and girls) walked past my apartment pointing at him and telling each other what they would say and do to him.
The ringleader is not Irish and his mother claims to not be able to speak English so going to her is pointless. According to a few other Irish parents, he has targeted each one of their children when they moved it but has never gone near any of the non- Irish children. He has even gone so far as putting a knife to one of the kids and shouting obscenities at women and what he would love to do to them. Hes 10. They have gone to his parents but nothing is done. The child is petrified of me as I've let roar at him before. His voice and body language instantly changes the second he spots me but I cant follow my son around all day.
My boy is very sensitive and as a previous victim of bullying, I know how hard it is to stand up for yourself. I really don't want to encourage him to hit or slag anyone back but I don't really know how else to to advise him. Breaks my heart when he comes up crying because hes been pushed off the swing and the other kids are encouraged to tell him everyone hates him.
Any advice is greatly appreciated!
Karen