DD driving me to the edge

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My 6yo has been making me angry everyday with her battle with clothing. Everyday, it's something. Underwear, socks, tops, pjs. Even school uniform - refusal to wear certain cardigans (which were all fine once). It seems to have crept in in the last 6-9 months.

I went with to H&M and got her to try on some a couple of months ago. They did fit her and she was happy to choose a few, but after one or two wears, she refuses to wear them. I have underwear in every size from 5-8 which she says is "too small/ too big".

We are going away this weekend and it will rain and so I pre-empted this and said, "Let's choose your holiday clothes together" and she had a meltdown about the leggings and her knickers again.

I told her that I am really angry with you and you are making mummy's life very difficult. Everyday I have a problem with you. She has picked up on my anger and says, "Mummy doesn't like me". I told her "Of course I love you but what you are doing is making things difficult for me."

Anyway, would appreciate some advice if anyone has been there. I know there is so much choice out there for kids but I didn't have 20% of the clothes she had. I know she won't appreciate that - anyway HELP me please.

What would happen if you let her decide what to wear each day?

My DM always tells the story of me only ever wanting to wear one dress. She let me wear it for a few days and then explained that I would have to hand wash it to keep it nice. Apparently I changed my mind pretty quickly. Perhaps if you just let her wear the limited few things she finds acceptable, she might slowly change her mind. Perhaps it's more about the battle than the clothes?

Just let her choose. It really doesn’t matter if she sticks to a limited range of stuff, even if it might seem like a waste of most of the stuff she’s refusing to wear.
Not worth a daily argument.

She is picking up on your frustration and acting out on it before it happens, give her choices on two different things, so it feels like a choice, but have already made the decision. It’s hard, I’ve been there myself, but it does get easier when you know which battles to fight and which ones to let slide on by. Good luck x

Would she wear the shorts style knickers? Maybe it’s the elastic on her legs she doesn’t like.
This would infuriate me. My 6yo does this to a certain extent but not this bad. She’s decided she wouldn’t wear play suits or dresses anymore so I gave them away much to her annoyance.
She does this annoying thing of insisting she will wear something then say she’s not sure or doesn’t like it after I take the tags off but i make her wear it anyway

She picked up some playsuits on George at Asda which I ordered and then she said she won't wear them because of the sleeves.

@MammaMia19 I have got her short style knickers and she won't wear them either.

I generally let her wear what she wants but as we are going to be in a muddy field camping, I am saying she has to wear leggings, socks and wellies.

However, we have problems with socks too. I can't seem to get that right. I have bought so many pairs of socks for school (she only will wear 3 pairs and wears them for consecutive days). She tries to do that with her knickers at which point I drew the line. She then had a meltdown and told I should be doing the clothes washing a lot more often!

She won't wear jeans either.

It's like this with food too - only in the last year - she has gotten really picky.

I really want to get my relationship with her right but I am struggling.

Following as have same issues with 6 year old

My 6 year old is like this: will only wear about 3 outfits from the dozens in his drawer.

He kicked off this morning because his favourite stuff was in the washing, so I packed him off to his room to have a think about what was most important: having a fun day out, or the tshirt he would prefer to wear. He appeared dressed in an alternative with a note saying 'I am sorry'.

I don't have the answers. It's beyond boring. But I share your pain.