So long story condensed with my child’s dad for 10 yrs he was useless to say the least never bothered with her for 5 yrs, didn’t spend any time with her didn’t change a nappy didn’t put her to bed didn’t take her to nursery etc etc
He was controlling lazy and ended up seeing a counselllor forced by me to try sort himself out who told him I should leave him and did he realise she was his child as well !
So I finally left amicable moved close by so to not distrust anything in her life we share custody his mother does most of his time from what I gather but I stay out of it
Since I left all he’s done is play victim to everyone so anyone who was in our life’s has now left mine shall we say I have no idea what he tells them and I’ve tried to just let it wash over me to be honest I don’t actually care because if people can’t see the truth them I don’t want them in my life but he can play a really good game few people knew what he was like while we were together we put on a good external front I guess
But now my daughters friends parents have all stopped having anything to do with me and invite him and her places even when she is with me even though I always invite their kids over for play dates etc on my daughters birthday all her friends came to mine for her party her dad asked if he could have her early I agreed only to find out one of the kids who was at mine literally invited all the same bunch of kids and parents to a bbq straight after the party they all looked very awkward when one of the kids mentioned it to me
This sort of thing has happened several times now and I’m struggling to not let it bother me to the point I don’t want to invite their kids over because I just think sod you but then it’s my daughter that’s missing out
I just don’t get it I’ve always gone out of my way to do loads of stuff for the kids and now just to be blanked I’m struggling not to blow up to be honest even though I know I need to rise above it !!!
On the outside I appear the bad person ive moved on met someone else even though I told him as soon as I started seeing someone waited 6 months then told him before they met my daughter etc I played it by the book he on the other hand introduced her to a new women when she told me he tried to make out my daughter was lieing only to later end up admitting it later coming out she’d stayed over etc he’s literally a lieing little shit and everyone believes he’s the hard done by victim he plays and I’m a bad person
I don’t even know why I’m writing this because I know I can’t let it bother me or change what I do because it’s her that will miss out but seriously are grown adults really that rude and narrow minded ffs he apparently can’t afford childcare but can be out drinking and driving a sports car and I’m the outcast people can really be very hurtful in their actions sometimes something I haven’t experienced since high school you assume once you get older people are not as cruel