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Hate this woman!!

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Icklemissme123 · 24/07/2019 23:31

Over the top grandmother?

So I've had a absolute nightmare of a time with my husband's mother. I got sick while pregnant resulting in my little one being poorly too. My husbands mom made such a fuss during my labour that its not fair if my mom came so i couldn't have my mom there even though i wanted her to be he wanted to keep the peace.
After having het all she done was say my little one has colic she has this she has that. i was kept in 11 days and she came every day so i never got any alone time with my mom or my family. She kept telling me i was doing this wrong and that wrong after hospital it got worse she would demand we go to see her at 8pm at night with a newborn. My husband and i argued alot about this. When i went down she would tell me how my baby was in pain and make me feel so low down like i wasn't doing anything right. She'd criticize the way i got her ready what i could and couldn't do. I would cry every night. I was having problems with my husband. I was struggling so hard I'd just had a emergancy c-section and sepsis. My husband started to pull away help wise my little one was 22 days old and he did nothing for 3 days and i mean nothing she rang me asked how things were i explained its abit hard on your own she asked me to ask him to go and see her so i did. He went down wouldn't talk to me stayed there 2 days he came back to tell me his mom told him to take a step back or I'll get depression i explained she told me to ask him to go down so she could ask him to do more. I was furious i went to my moms and vented his mom called my mom to tell her i should leave the baby with her as I'm depressed (sge didn't know she was on speaker) at a month old she demaded i drop her off cause she needs to show the baby to her family i explained it was too soon for me she hung up and told my husband how I'm leaving her out and its ridiciousls. I didnt feel ready for her to be out without me she's my first. She bought my little one chocolate at 2 months old i explained she doesn't eat it yet cause i dont want her to. I wouldn't trust giving a 2 month old chocolate i made a lie and said my doctor said not to give chocolate to under a year she said I'm stupid im daft everyone gives chocolate to babys.i know they dont. She tried to give my baby tap water at 2 months too she demands she has the baby. I feel like i hate the woman it feels like she made my life hell it shouldn't of been that hard. I dont want to see her and i dont really want my little one to see her is that too harsh? What would you do in this situation ?

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Heartofglass12345 · 24/07/2019 23:37

I would cut contact, she is ruining this for you! This is your child not hers, and if your partner disagrees then at least he has somewhere to go when you kick him out! He needs to be on your side, you have just had his child! You need support not criticism. It must be an awful situation to be in but you have to think about what's best for you and your baby Thanks

gonewiththepotter · 24/07/2019 23:39

If anybody tried to give my 2 month old chocolate or tap water I’d be furious!

She’s crazy - RUN!

Heartofglass12345 · 24/07/2019 23:40

Plus a two month old shouldn't be eating anything let alone chocolate! I wouldn't even let your partner take the baby there without you as she can't be trusted, and I was very laid back about who saw/ held my babies but even I wouldn't trust her!

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Icklemissme123 · 24/07/2019 23:45

I try to pull away but it causes such huge arguments my partner doesn't realise how much i dislike her my little one is 7 months and she tries to cradle her like a baby my daughter hates shes not even the first grandchild i feel like she tried to pull me down to take my baby away i cried in hospital to thw midwifes cause she told me she could see im not coping i had sepsis i was on morphine and a drip she came every day twice a day to critisize me on somthing i really really hate her but my partner says its still her grandchild but everything she does gets to me my daughter is 6 months dhe bought her pajarmers for a 2yearold and asked why i wasn't greatfull as the other grandchildren got photos taken in theres it doesnt bloody fit what can i do! Hate this woman

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Icklemissme123 · 24/07/2019 23:47

7 months sorry. She rings if i dont take her down once a week and i went down last week she had her 3 sisters all had a go asking why she wasn't alowed to have her i explained i wasn't ready and they pulled a face to eachother the absolute cheek

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gardenbats · 24/07/2019 23:49

Eh? You've said she's 2 months several times in your OP ...

Icklemissme123 · 24/07/2019 23:51

She tried to give my LO chocolate and tap water at 2 month old shes 7 months now sorry for the confusion

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Graphista · 24/07/2019 23:51

Cut her off completely she is being abusive. Block her on phone/SM the lot.

Tell your husband he supports you or he can piss off too!

I'll likely get flamed but honestly this is a bloody ridiculous situation, where if you continue to have contact with this nightmare you and/or your baby are likely to be harmed by her actions or attitude.

Protect yourself and your child and tell her to get tae fuck!

Icklemissme123 · 24/07/2019 23:57

I would love nothing more but to cut ties with this woman but its my husbands mother. Is there any right way ti broach the subject I'm tierd of dreading going to see her and would worry sick if she was left in her care.

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justilou1 · 25/07/2019 00:07

Move back in with your mum and tell him to fuck off back to his mummy. He sounds useless and she’s vile.

WomanLikeMeLM · 25/07/2019 00:07

Tell her straight, you have had enough of her now and you are done with her, and if your DH has an issue with you he can join her permanently. Stick to it and mean it. So what if it causes arguments, that just her sulking.

Graphista · 25/07/2019 00:58

but its my husbands mother.

Which is WHY both of them should be behaving a damn sight better than they are!

Stop being bullied by them.

They don't care about hurting your feelings or causing you or your child distress or even harm! So stop worrying about offending them!

Give it em straight!

Him: "her behaviour is completely and utterly unacceptable and unless and until she apologises and changes it I will be having nothing more to do with her"

I wouldn't even enter conversation with her! Just block her and refuse to go to her house or have her visit mine! Unless you get a genuine apology and real behavioural change.

Graphista · 25/07/2019 00:59

And no way does she get access to the child either - it's not safe unless she wises up and listens to you.

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