I’m hoping I can find some help off here.
I recently told my step son to leave my house & now he’s living at my partners parents as I don’t wish for him to come back here.
My Step child is 16 nearly 17 & hasn’t had the best of upbringings from his mothers side mostly. He was taken by social an lived with his mams dad for a few years an went back to his mums. After 2yrs with his mum an her partner he ended up coming to live with us due to his step dad apparently trying to hit him. My step child is known for lieing about things and has said before I have hit him myself an called him names. Anyway I live at home with my mum and partner has her health isn’t good an needs help. Everything was fine for the first few months an then the lies, bad behaviour started again. There was changes in the storey about his step dad which needed to be written into court cause he refused to ever go back home an we needed the residence order him to stay. He wrote to the court himself with cafcas an said he’d like to live with us to, everything got sorted an he stayed.
I’ve felt like I had no choice but to tell him to leave, he now lives with my OH parents. I’ve battled for around 2yr with his lies and behaviour which has been verbal an on one occasion tried to intimidate me. I’ve gone threw the doctors that referred me to CAMS who have said no mental health problems but have managed to get soical services an a councillor to step in an try an help.
For the past two years he’s been making lies up, little & big ones. He’s told people I abuse him, he lied many years before coming here saying I hit him and called him names which is untrue & ive been with my oh for 10yrs. He try’s to play everyone off (I know kids do this) he says his dad says I’ve done things when I haven’t even tho his dad said nothing of the sort, he’s told grandparents his dad was forcing him to take an apprenticeship he didn’t wanna do when infact he told his dad he did an could he have a new bike to get there an back, which he got an then purposely messed the test up. He’s then gone on to say loads of times he don’t want to live here anymore & we are keeping him her me even tho he has a court order to stay with dad. social have no corners around us or our home.
Social believe he has an attachment problem due to his mother. The last argument was when I told him to get out. He went an lied and told social services I strangled him & when the police came he failed to mention that bit. I just don’t know what to do, I feel like I’ve done everything in my power to help and it’s wrecking my relationship.
I’m not speaking to him nor will I go anywhere near he is. I don’t know what to do, please can anyone give me some advice.