Do I need to wash DS's duvet every day when night training?

[WontonsMower]

DS is 4.5, starting school in Sept. Never been dry at night. Day time potty training was a long drawn-out process but he's fine. I thought about starting night training as per the Oh Crap book when he was about 3.5 but everyone said to just wait for the hormone...

So he's been in pull-ups every night, never ever been dry. He's a heavy sleeper.

However I'm starting to suspect his sodden nappy pants are partly down to weeing at night/in the morning in bed because he can't be bothered to get up. He's just come down at 9.30pm still awake and admitted he's wet the bed as his nappy's leaked. So I'm washing the sheets and duvet, and we don't have a spare (it's v warm so he can sleep under the empty duvet cover tonight!) - he often stays awake until quite late despite our best efforts (light off etc).

I had been thinking about night training properly once he'd settled in at school but honestly I can't face washing a duvet every day. Sheets- ok. I don't have a tumble dryer (or really any space for one). Do I need to shell out for spare duvets and a tumble dryer just to stop him wetting the bed? How on earth do people do it? Most of my friends just seemed to wait until the dc had dry nappies at night. We have those towelling training pants but they don't really contain anything.

My brother didn’t stop wetting the bed until he was 11-12. He had the alarms and medications as well. A few of my friends growing up also wet the bed. You can get pull-ups in a range of bigger sizes.

I would give it a week and give him something like a fleece blanket, my lot are all sleeping with them just now and we’re in Scotland so it’s not warm. They can be washed and dried in 2 hours.

If he’s not dry in the week just try again every 6 months or so don’t sweat it he’s still so young. Chances are he’ll tell you when he’s too old for pull ups.

Both of mine were not reliably dry til 7 and did wet the duvet often. One summer holidays when dd was 5 i think i washed the darn thing daily! Luckily i bought v cheap argos duvets that dry v quickly and it was always dry by the next night.

Instead of a duvet you could use a fleece blanket, which is much quicker to wash and dry. Another good tip is to layer up the bed; waterproof sheet> sheet > waterproof sheet > sheet - that way if there's a wet bed in the night, you can just peel off the top two and deal with putting on fresh sheets in the morning.

While the weather is hot I would give it a week sleeping with no nappy and the duvet cover. See how you get on! We have a £3 duvet from ikea that dries very quickly x

As other have said switch to blankets which dry quicker and easier or keep in night nappies.

There is a hormone but there are other reasons for bedwetting too. My son slept too deeply and an alarm sorted it out, my friends son had to drink a lot more in the day.

DD1 was guilty of weeing upon waking rather than getting up to use the loo. DD2 is dry 50% of nights now, but of the wet nappies perhaps 1/3 are lazy upon-waking wees. They go to the loo as soon as they are out of bed so it is/was very obvious when they'd been lazy as the pull up was very very warm...
Not the nicest thing to do, but have a feel of the (outside of!) the nappy OP. If it is you can assume laziness and take action. If it's cold I'd leave night dryness for now and give him a little longer. FWIW our house rule is 2 weeks consistently dry overnight to go into knickers for bed.

While the suns shining i would definitely give it a try nappy free.

Only need to throw a sheet over him, as it's so hot and not a lot of clothes on him to be messing with if he needs the loo quickly through the night.

Can I ask everyone/anyone on this thread how it all turned out?

After waiting for the magic hormone to kick I removed DD's (6) pull ups this summer. At first we had about 4 dry nights in 7 if I woke her at 11pm and walked her to the toilet but in the last week it's just been 2+ accidents every night getting through 2-3 duvets a night - harder to keep up with than sheets as others have pointed out.

Plus also once she's a awake after cleaning up and changing PJs she's so hard to get back to sleep and really irritable. We are all suffering from lack of sleep...

I'm tempted to go back to pull ups but like others feel like it would be just deferring this same process for another few months - at least it's summery(ish) now!

I also have a 2 year old potty training and the washing is genuinely making me depressed

YukoandHiro was she reliably dry in the pull ups before you tried? You said you've waited for the hormone to kick in, but it sounds like you've assumed it has based on age? Although most DCs will be producing it by 7, it can be longer. If she still isn't dry once she's turned 7, I would have a chat with her GP in case there is something else causing it.
FWIW, we waited until we'd had 2 weeks of waking up to a dry nappy every day before attempting to remove them. We didn't need to do any nighttime waking/lifting to use the loo once they were asleep.