Neighbour in need?

[LizzieHolloway]

Hello, I'm new to MumsNet... seemed like the best place to come with the following problem.

I need thoughts on whether or not this is the worst idea in the world.

My neighbour SCREAMS at her small children - and I don't mean "for God's sake get your shoes on we're going to be late!" I mean swearing, aggressive screaming. They don't even really react, which is disturbing, they must be about 2 and 4 years old. Is it the absolute worst idea to print out an article about coping with anger at your kids and pop it through their door anonymously? I can't stand the screaming but moreover it really seems to be a daily struggle for her and I feel hideously sorry for the kids. Thoughts. Please.

(For context - we are new to the road, been here about 2 months. I have only chatted to the dad of the family in passing, he's very friendly, the mum is quite insular. They have good days, of course, like everyone and I don't think she is physically aggressive, I've no reason to.)

No, I wouldn’t do that.

It could make her deal with the children in a quiet but sinister manner instead.

What about contacting Home Start? Seeing if they would send her some leaflets/information.

www.home-start.org.uk/

Keep a diary.
One day you may need to ring Ss.

Yes, keep a diary, no, don't post anything through the door. However I would try and make her aware that you're aware, if that makes sense. It might be enough to make her think before shouting. A breezy 'goodness me, doesn't sound travel between our houses, I can hear you so clearly ' type thing.

Thanks everyone, I won't put anything through the door. It felt wrong, hence my asking! Just want to do something constructive if possible rather than just either let it get on my nerves / become a major concern.

I will make a note of specifics as you all suggested, and as for making her aware I can hear her, I do try and clatter around / whistle / listen to the radio etc to make clear just how much it's possible to hear every little thing.