Lying about hitting/smacking

[misspotter123]

I'm 100% sure my 4 year old isn't lying about her stepdad hitting her, when ever I let him deal with her attitude she starts screaming in pain saying that he hit her, he denies it but he's always said she needs a good slap for bad behaviour and it's been a constant argument between us since she was 3, I will never ever lay a hand on my daughter and I'll be damned if anyone else
Does!! I'm seriously thinking about leaving him even though I love him so much! I will NOT have anyone hurt my daughter

Eh? Is he always in another room with her? Do you look for marks? This sounds ridiculous.

It only happens when it's them too In the same room, it's always on her head or side, I have seen a few marks over the last few days, what sounds ridiculous?

It sounds ridiculous that you don’t know, if there are marks on your child get him out your house and never leave her with him until he’s gone. Your daughter is your priority not this man.

You are going to get a lot of stick on here OP.
If this is true then he is already abusing your daughter.

I find it hard to understand how anyone could possibly love someone who hurts their kids.

Leave him. You are facilitating the abuse of your child.

Yes if you’ve seen marks then you need to get rid of him. All 4 year olds have attitude, and mine responded better to calm when I can muster it.

You should believe your daughter and break things off with the man.

Why is he still in the house if there is any chance at all that he has hit your daughter?

You need him to be somewhere else right now.

I think the minute he started saying a 3 yr old needed a good slap he would have been out. You love him? You have no standards.

How can you love him if you think he secretly hits your child? You need to put her first. If she is telling you he hits her you should believe her.

Let’s not pile on - the first thing she says is she believes her daughter. I think she’s summoning up the strength to do the right thing. For her DD’s sake let’s not scare her off...

OP. Trust yourself. Stick to her like glue till bedtime then pack his bags while he’s at work tomorrow.

I have seen a few marks over the last few days

Why is he still there?

Your child is asking her Mum for help. Don't be that woman who puts a man over her child. Get him tae fuck.

@Longtalljosie
There’s no summoning up to be done, he’s abusing her child, he’s not the father, tell him to fuck off, nobody needs a man that much.

If he has smacked your 4 year old across the head i would ring the Police, thats not disciplining a child but a major safeguarding sign. Believe your child.

Sorry op, after I had read your first post I had it in my head that you weren't sure about what your daughter told you but, on re-reading, I see that you are 100% sure which is good.

You're thinking of leaving your partner but please don't think about it too long, do it! Or pack his bags and make him leave.

WomanLikeMeLM If he has smacked your 4 year old across the head i would ring the Police, thats not disciplining a child but a major safeguarding sign.

Agree wholeheartedly.