Babies under 12 months old, how to deal

[RRRplus1]

Hi all,

I have two children, one aged 12 years old, and one aged 8 months.

I was wondering if anyone else has a similar age gap and is experiencing the same problem as me.

Sometimes, I just can not deal with the crying. Some days I can deal with it really well, but some days, I feel I'm getting really wound up easily by it, I've never actually acted on my feelings, but I do feel really guilty about feeling like that about her crying. Is it just me?

Interested to see how other people deal with that feeling?

Thanks in advance

Dear OP
There is a twelve year gap between my two children

When i look back i feel like my first one was an angel and did no wrong.

The second child was and still is a nightmare lol. There were times and still is where he cries for absolutely nothing and i recall nothing like this happening with my eldest.

I used to get very upset and had to leave the room on numerous occassions.

Just take a moment to gather yourself and try your best not to let yourself become angry.

So i feel i become acustomed to my daughter who is 14 and just does her own thing and understands everything and forgot what it was like to have a small baby.

It will get better just focus on being patient and taking short time outs to gather yourself

@JulieJay833

Thank you for your response! It's really comforting to know I'm not the only person to have felt the struggle of forgetting what it's like to have a baby again. We must look back through Rose tinted glasses as I too do not remember my oldest being like this. I know this is the only way she can comminicate, but it does get tiresome. And like you, I too became so used to a child that was so capable of doing their own thing. Thank you for your advice, I will try to give myself a moment and be more patient.