Do your parents still buy you birthday/Xmas gifts?

[RaiderGirl94]

I’m just curious. My parents are very sweet they still buy me birthday & Christmas gifts. I’m 30 and my partner parents stopped buying him gifts after he was 18. Do your parents still buy you gifts? Or when did they stop? 😁

Yes they do and I buy them gifts. I have asked them to stop as I have kids they buy for, but my mum enjoys doing it.

My mum gets me a choc bar for Xmas, and gets dp a toblerone or similar. Nothing usually for my birthday... but when I turned 40 she got me a small mixed box of green and blacks. In my family, once we have kids, the gifts stop for the adults. In dps family, the presents continue... so I get gifts from them and not my family, which is strange.

I forgot to ask. How old are you? This is just for fun 😁

My mum passed when she was 89 and I was 53 and she still got me a present. Cheque usually in the latter years, saying I should use it to get a facial or something.

My youngest is a bit older than you of course I buy my DC's gifts, and obviously I'm old enough to be your mother

Quite shocked that someone stopped at 18! I couldn’t imagine not exchanging presents with my folks

Yes and I am in my 40s. DH also gets presents from his parents and my grandparents bought for my parents until they died. It seems odd to me to stop buying for your children.

Yes, and I still buy them gifts. I’m nearly 40.
My DHs family don’t do birthday presents for adults but they do exchange Xmas presents.

Um yes, of course! I'm in my 50s.

I get Birthday and Christmas gifts from my parents, though my birthday gift got smaller once I had children I still get quite a bit from them at Christmas

DH says "when they died" (they were in their 80s/90s).

My parents do but I have politely asked all my extended family not to, and I won’t be doing the same for them!

Me and my siblings where laughing the other day that the same 20 quid had been floating around in our birthday cards from each other for years.

I will buy immediate family as in mum, dad, in-laws and my one nephew gifts now and that’s it.

I end up donating so many unopened toiletries to homeless charities and women’s shelters due to excessive gifts from extended family. Which is great for charities, I do like the Facebook option of getting people to donate to charities for your birthday (it’s mine in a few days and I keep getting reminders)

It’s very much appreciated when someone does buy me a gift, but they rarely get used. I would much rather like a nice card, email or even a Facebook message these days.

It’s also great for the environment to not gift people things they will not use or throw away. I am 32 btw, and have enough tat to fill 3 homes between my 6 year old and my DH!!

Yes. When I asked the parents I got told in no uncertain terms that Birthdays are a chance to show that even if we forget show because of busyness and responsibilities over the rest of the year, for just one day we want to remind and reassure that you are cared for, seen and loved as an individual.

If we can't see the birthday boy or girl in the week, we'll have either a group or individual catch ups during the month. Everyone makes a birthday call on the day unless travelling with a stupid time difference or bad connections. Even then we send a WhatsApp voicemail or manage a text/email.

My Dp gets nothing for birthday or Xmas off his parents but we both still get presents off my parents. I also still get presents from my nanas and my closest aunt. We are late 30s.

Of course they do. I also get gifts from pil. It's odd not to get your child a gift and cutting off at 18 is surely quite a hurtful thing to do?
It is just a way to show you care.

No. Stopped when I left home at 18. I think I got a cheque at 21, and I got a cheque for my 40th. If we see each other at Xmas I get them token gifts (they are now divorced) but they don't usually reciprocate. DH buys his mum presents (or rather I do at Xmas...) and she gives our kids presents. It doesn't bother me - the awkwardness of being given something you don't want is awful and seems like a waste.

I'm shocked that they stopped when he was 18! Feels a bit mean?
My parents and my dps parents still buy us gifts and we'll both be 29 for birthdays and Christmas this year, we also buy gifts for them, I can't imagine not.
Friends children/cousins I can understand stooping at a certain age as it gets exigencies, but your own children, nah.

Expensive, no idea where exigencies came from.

We still have to write a list for my mum at Christmas (DH included) she usually asks for it around October and I never have anything to ask for!!
But we still end up with a massive gift pile and Christmas! Bless her

I've never thought of it as hurtful to be honest. They don't know what I like and bubble bath just gets regifted. I see my parents a couple of times a year but not at Xmas or birthdays

Yes - and PILs do too. I'm 50, DH is 42.

Yes they do, quite extravagant too of late, they spend equally on myself and my siblings to the penny almost!

My DM still buys me lots of little presents, socks, PJ's at Xmas. I do tell her to buy for the grandchildren only but she won't have it. I understand, as I am sure I will be the same with my DC's. I am 35 btw. My In-laws still buy us also. Usually money and chocolates or wine.

I get £20 for my birthday from parents and around £30 at Xmas but in form of a present or two
I have 2 DD they buy for too

My in laws do but they’re awful. In return they expect something expensive and of their choice. I can’t imagine ever wanting to stop buying ours presents.