DV related

[LittleTee2018]

Hi all,
I have finally escaped my years of abuse.
6 whole years of it.
The physical side and the mental side.
I’m currently receiving counselling to get me through it.
Following me to friends/families house
Coming into work, waiting hours for me to finish and following me.
Trying to drive me off the road
Death threats
Threats to commit arson
Locking child in car until he blackmailed me to tell him where I’d been.
Slicing his wrists (numerous attempts of suicide)
Walking in front of a bus
And drink driving/ arrested In possession of a knife .

Now I’ve never ever been unreasonable. I have been nothing but amicable considering he made my life hell.
Supervised visits with his mum was in my sons best interests and his safety is my priority. Only his mother chose to let her son take him out alone when I had asked that she be there.
I have received a letter stating they will take it to court if I don’t let him have his child before August.

I have nothing against him seeing his son I believe it’s important for them to maintain a relationship but his unpredictable behaviour terrifies me. I am frightened of him, I’ve seen him lose his temper at me and at our child. I used to constantly walk on egg shells with him. I had cctv installed and bolts on my doors and windows for this reason.
A non mol order would be in place if I could afford the £900+ they wanted.

I’m not sure what to do.

This sounds awful, well done for getting away. It also sounds like I it might need to go to court though, so you can get this arrangement formalised. I'm not sure what you can do to enforce it until that happens. I'm sure others will have better knowledge and understanding of situations like this though. Good luck OP.

Thank you so much.

I'm on medication and receiving counselling.
I'll get through it one day.
I would ideally like it to go through the courts so that it's set in stone but the thought of seeing him there all smug worries me.

Do you have all this logged OP? The fact he was arrested for possession of a knife .... do you honestly think a judge/court will allow unsupervised access?

He won't be sat their smug!!!

But won't it feel great to see that smug look wiped off his face when the judge rules in your favour?

In all seriousness, if he's been that bad then he's bluffing in the hope that you'll give him what he wants. Yet more emotionally abusive behaviour. It's crap but you can and will get through this.

It doesn’t need to cost £900 - you can represent yourself and it will cost a fraction of that, I’ve seen it done many times. Good luck.