Would it be wrong....?

[feelingsicknow]

I am on Day 4 proper of the most horrific stinking cold. First illness I've had since I first got pregnant with DS who is now 10 months old.

DH has had a few bouts of illness lately and I've been managing things 'okay'. I've got PND which means that I always feel I'm just keeping my head above water at the best of times.

DH has been doing all the night shifts with DS this week - DS has had the cold too and been quite restless this week.

Yesterday I asked DH to work from home so he could help out with a few things, which he was happy to do.

Last night was my worst night yet - the hacking cough and blocked nose kept me up til gone 3am and I've woken at 5.30am.

Would it be awful if I asked DH to take the day off to look after DS while I checked into a hotel round the corner to sleep undisturbed and try and shake this bloody thing off? (I can't sleep if I can hear the baby downstairs , I just can't switch off)

I haven't had a cold like this for years. Feels like I've swallowed razors.

I'd ask him. The worst he can say is no, if it's not feasible. If he can't, can somebody watch DS while he's at work so you can continue with your plan?

Also the feeling like swallowing razors sounds like strep throat or tonsillitis, not just a cold. I'd see your GP if you can, in case it is an infection and you need antibiotics to shift it.

I don't want him to feel like I'm taking the p*ss. I find my PND makes me unsure if I'm being a bit unreasonable at times.

My family watched our DS for a weekend while we went away for the first time a few weeks ago but his family haven't done more than a few hours at a time before....

I will ask him to ask his family if he can't do it.

Not unreasonable at all, but I agree with PP that it could be worth a doctor visit to see if anything can speed up your recovery.

I’m glad DH is being so supportive, and total rest is exactly what you need - trying to struggle on just makes you slower to recover. In my house we have a policy of ‘rest properly, get better quickly’!

It’s for everyone’s benefit!

Hope you’re feeling better soon

I've been trying to gauge what my tonsils are like - I did wonder about this in the early hours of this morning whilst thrashing about 😩😷

Asked him and he's cool with staying at home but went a bit funny when I said I was thinking of going to stay at hotel.

Asked why I didn't just get some rest upstairs. I said (for the millionth time) that I can't switch off if I can hear DS (our upstairs is awaiting extensive remodelling and currently the bedroom door doesn't shut properly so it's just not possible to avoid hearing DS (happy or sad noises!).

I've been sleeping on the couch all week for this reason - to avoid hearing him at night - but I'm still not getting any sleep because of hacking cough and discomfort. I thought going to stay at hotel would at least take care of one of these!

Feel like he's annoyed with me ☹️

However, I've made a GP appointment this morning so that's one good thing.

Get to the doctor and get some help. Get earplugs. I understand your dh finding it a bit off you would go to stay in s hotel.

Get some silicone ear plugs and play some white noise in your room. That will block out most of the noise so you can drop off.

Yeah, I'm concerned that it's a cop-out to go and stay in the hotel so I've told DH I won't go and now he's insisting I go.

All we do is argue and bicker at the moment. I wonder if it'd be good in more ways than one - bit of space.

Go to the doctor (I had strep throat recently, antibiotics and I felt better within a few hours), get some ear plugs from the pharmacy and if you can face stopping at the shop on your way back get your husband something nice for lunch/cake/beer/new marvel dvd or whatever to say thanks for looking after you - hopefully that will relieves a bit of the tension and you’ll get some sleep as well

Nope, I remember being sick and mil having DD for the day so that I could rest. It only enters CF territory if you do it constantly and for the tiniest of sniffles.

Can you get your partner to check your tonsils? I've just had these symptoms for two weeks. Only antibiotics worked.
Oh and gargling tcp and disposable paracetamol (not together).

Hope you feel better soon.

Thanks folks. At the doctor just now, just waiting.

I asked DH to look at my tonsils but he said "they look okay". I fear he's losing sympathy for me!!

Nothing wrong with that - you are sick, you need to rest and someone needs to take care of your child.

Personally, I wouldn't go to a hotel though - I'd kick by husband and kid out of the house for the day instead ;)

Going to the doctor is the right thing, but are you going to want to go to a hotel everytime you are unwell? This is life with a child. You just have to get on with it.

Going to the doctor sounds sensible. Hotel sounds a little bit extravagant, can’t DH take your DS out for the day? That would give you plenty of rest, they’d do something interesting together and you’d have the comfort of home.

I’m afraid being a mum and being ill is pretty shit. Absolutely do ask your DH to pitch in, but you might also have to learn to push through it sometimes.

Doctor confirmed just the cold/flu virus and no tonsillitis/strep throat. However, he was actually more concerned with my mental health and has insisted I go back and see him in two weeks - and gave me into trouble when I admitted that I haven't been taking my antidepressants every day (he calculated that my last prescription would have run out mid-June and I admitted that I haven't been consistent with them).

I think this is probably why this virus seems to have knocked me so hard - mentally I have no resilience to cope.

I've come to the hotel and have already slept for 3 hours, washed and dried my hair (first time in two weeks) and had lots of water and meds.

I absolutely know that being a mum means pushing through. I don't think I am cut out to be a mum. That's part of the problem.

But good luck to anyone with this current virus - it's a total stinker.