Advice with bad sleep habit please!

[Hairwizard]

So as title says, need some handy hints/advices please.
Dd is almost 15mths old. Sleeps in cot in our room. She was/is due to move to own room in prep for twins arrival. (They arrived early at 34+3 on the 7th and currently in scbu)!
The snag is during in early hours she wakes and we (dp really. Fucking soft touch🙄☹) would lift her in to bed to get to sleep. This has ended up happening every night since, she gets to about 4 in morning and just refuses to settle back down.
Obvs we cant continue like this with 2 newborns soon home.
Im going to have to tackle this, not sure best way. Am thinking just let her be in cot and if she shouts and roars so be it. Dp can sleep in spare room for his 5am starts. Hopefully couple of nights should sort it, or do any of you have anything better??
Really want this knocked on head asap for she will be going to own room in next or so.

Next week or so.

Yep that’s the only way- id keep going back in every 10mins to comfort her but don’t pick her up - it will feel like a life time but it may only take a few days for her to get the message

I would move her into her room and your partner can do nights with her. Put a bed in there if you must.

It’s not realistic for you to be left to tend to 3 babies with partner in the spare room. When our 2nd was born (only one), I didn’t do any bedtime, nights or mornings with my older one. Dh did everything and I tended to our baby, did most of the nights with him, caught up on sleep in the morning, etc.

Yip thats what i thiught, suck it up and rough it out for few nights. ILs will be in helping this eve but will have to tell them to leave once shes in bed or else ds will take the piss. They are too soft on them. And they have been putting her to sleep in pram and leaving her in room in pram to sleep the nights i was in hospital. Undone all my work to get her sleeping in her cot.😡
Dp hsd suggested putting camp bed in her room and him going in there but thats not really any better than having her in bed i dont think. When does that stop then? Wouldnt want her to get used to that either.

DD is 3.6 regularly ended up in our bed or us in hers. DS arrived 10weeks ago. To prepare her we started off with insisting she was in her room but often with one of us in bed with her. Once that established put a camp bed on floor for DH. Now she stays in her room and when she wakes DH goes in and settles her then often ends up on camp bed as he now gets a better nights sleep in her room than in ours with DS. Sometimes when I’m knackered I kick DH out of the camp bed so I can get away from the snuffling baby(forgot how noisy they are!) musical beds has become our normality.
Just do what you have to and don’t worry about training or setting up bad habits (I spent ages stressing over this) just do whatever gets the most sleep for the most people.

Good luck and congratulations!

Dp hsd suggested putting camp bed in her room and him going in there in my opinion thats just establishing another habit you will have to break. Just bite the bullet and put her in her own room

Yea thats my thinking @OnlyFoolsnMothers.
On one hand @Fedupatforty yea anything to get sleep but i dont want it becoming another habit needing breaking.
God why cant they just go to fucking sleep til morning ?? Sigh.

Yeah, daughter has some terrible sleep habits but we almost killed ourselves trying to establish good sleep habits. Whatever we did would work for a week or so then she’d get sick or some other reason would get us back to square one. After 3 years of it we gave up and adopted the ‘whatever gets the most people the most sleep’ mantra and have been happier since. I am very jealous of people who follow CC, gentle retreat (insert sleep training technique here - have tried them all) etc... and get lasting results!

God why cant they just go to fucking sleep til morning ?? Sigh.

Yeah. Bloody needy non-verbal little ones. Why don’t they understand that only fully formed adults are allowed to gain comfort from bed sharing.

FWIW you’ve chosen to have more children. And now that they’re here you’re going to push her out of your room and let her deal with it herself. Recipe for disaster IMO.

@MoreSlidingDoors we havent room for 2 cots in our room.
I had been working on getting her ready for her room for last couple of months then twins came early so i havent been here to get her moved to her room. I didnt want to end up moving her when twins home and no time to deal with the wakings etc, plan was to get her into room and settled first.
She wont be left to deal with it herself obvs, but she is capable of sleeping through no issues as she had been.