Potty training - help!

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My DD is almost 4, she's been potty training for over a year, but we don't seem to be getting anywhere!

She will go through dry phases but it seems if we don't remind her (sometimes force her) to use the toilet, she just won't. She just constantly says she doesn't need a wee when we ask/tell her to go.

We've tried everything, sticker charts, chocolate bribes (I know, not ideal!) rewards for a dry day, bigger rewards for a dry week etc. Nothing works, she loses interest or just doesn't care.

Nursery say she sometimes asks to go for a wee there but more often than not she's in different clothes when I pick her up.

I did go to the doctors but they've said it's just behavioural however I feel like if it was it would have resolved by now?

Her little sister is also potty trained and we have never had an issue but DD1 doesn't seem fussed by this at all.

Any ideas anyone?!

It sounds like your DD understands how to use a potty and that the response she gets for this is always positive and rewarding so she's just choosing not to use them, she now knows that you would like her to use potty toilet etc.. maybe change your approach make it her choice and just act like your not bothered, ask if she wants to use potty like her sister or wear baby nappies. Then when she says I'll use potty it will be because she's decided. Just a suggestion, obviously just try this for few weeks to see if it makes a difference.

What wheeliemummy says and also, get her to do as much of the washing as she is capable of doing. If she has to stop her game to undress and put clothes in the washing machine and put new clothes on that is more of a bother than just going to the loo.

Thank you for responding. I just feel like we've done all of that - when I've told her it's up to her and then not taken any notice, she will sit in wet pants for hours (obviously I do make her take them off) when I told her she needed to clean her own mess she really enjoyed the cleaning part and did it more!
I think she's just wilful and a bit lazy to be honest but I'm struggling!
Will just keep going!

I don't know the answer but we have almost identical situation with DS (also 4). You are not alone! I've recently started making it his choice to go, and also making him clean up. If he wees then he is exiled basically until he's clean and dry and his dirty stuff is in the machine. It's not working like magic but I do feel like things have improved a bit! I feel your pain!