Mum friend dilemma, should it be so hard?!!!!?

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So, need some advice, am I expecting too much from people or do you see where I am coming from?

We moved to our area about 6 years ago, despite having had lots of friends everywhere else I have lived I have really struggled to meet my 'tribe' here. recently met a mum in the park who seemed really nice, friendly, my sort of person. was really pleased and was nice because our sons seemed to really click too (mine is 2, hers is 3). we swapped numbers and she came over for a playdate at ours a few weeks later. had a great time, we chatted like old friends and the boys had a whale of a time too. she suggested we go to hers for a playdate so a few weeks after we went to hers, again great time (or so I thought!!)

I text when home to thank her and suggested she came to us in a few week’s time. she replied saying sounds great, we got a date in but she finished by saying she thought the date would be fine but would need to check. felt vague misgivings at this stage (prob me just being sensitive) but thought would see what happened. heard nothing and then on the day before the date she was meant to be coming i text just to check in and see if she was still on for it. she then said 'oh sorry, I’ve got a cold' - no apology or suggestion of an alternative date (which to me would be the first thing i would do especially considering it was meant to be a lunch date so had got extra things in in readiness), this was now a month ago and not heard a peep since.

so now not too sure quite how to take things forward, do I just need to accept that she’s not that 'into' it and move on or would you suggested that I contact her to try and see what’s going on?
i think it's just because i was so pleased to have a potential local buddy for me and for my son i guess i am abit loathe to let it go but hate the thought of chasing someone who isn’t fussed.
Thoughts ladies????x

Leave it. Your meeting was tenuous due to it being rather random (in the park) so I'd forget it.

Concentrate on getting your DS to groups...I honestly found that it wasn't until mine began school that I made friends with other Mums. You have more in common then with meeting often at school.

thanks @HennyPennyHorror, was what I was thinking so good to hear someone else say the same. Encouraging too to know that you didnt make mum friends till school started, think going to hold out till then and in the meantime check out some groups. thanks for responding

That’s really bad manners! You’re right to wonder what the hell went on that someone can’t even apologise or give you more notice. I think you’re doing the right thing and not dwelling on that aspect of what happened and I can see why you’d be wondering what to do next.
I know what you mean in that sometimes you hang out with someone and think, wow we really hit it off, and then something happens to make you question how you thought of it.
It just happens in life; not anyone’s fault.
Making friendships with small children is a tricky, and there are tons of mums who haven’t found their tribe, so stick with it.

Like was said above, keep going to groups, playgrounds, child friendly cafes. I met a really good friend when she struck up a conversation in a park cafe - something I never would have had the guts to do. I totally agree that school can make things a lot easier - there something about the structure and the fact that everyone’s in the same boat!