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I'm a 21 year old working parent I come home look after my child whilst running our flat. I split up from my child's dad about 8 months ago and receive no help financially or physically.

The whole relationship he was abusive and manipulative and when I got pregnant at 19 your dumb enough at the time to think a baby can make them change and obviously I was so wrong!

Financially I'm struggling. Mentally I'm struggling and I'm just beginning to just lose all motivation. I can no longer cope with my crying child everyday. I don't have the patience nor energy. I love my child obviously but I just can't help think that I'm just not cut up for being a parent

I just feel like giving up and disappearing and I long for someone to have guided me in the right direction at 19 years old I can't help but think how great my life would be now if I didn't have a child selfishly enough.

I feel awful thinking like this but I really want the best life for us but it just doesn't seem like it can happen. I'm always skint childcare is £867 a month rent is £338 a month and I only get paid £1266 from work! I get £867 of that back from childcare but I'm left with £300 a month after all bills and by then my child needs new clothes or toys or whatever it is!

I just don't feel like my life is worth living like this is it this is how I'm going to be for the rest of my life, struggling. Idk I'm probably a horrible person for saying that about my child but I can't help how I feel.

First of all yoh are not a horroble person. I am in my 30s and I find it tough. Doing it on your own must be really hard but this is probably the hardest part. You won't have these super high childcare costs forever and your child won't always be so dependent. You should be really proud of yourself for dealing with such a tough sotuation. I would go to some kind of citizen's advice to see if you could get some extra help. Or maybe try to rope in family if possoble. Sorry of it's not.

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You're doing a great job! You"re at the beginning of your career but in no time hopefully you'll be earning more. Your child will also be in school before you know it and so much more independent. Lots of 21 year olds don't have things completely sorted but the next couple of years you'll feel things click into place more. You're working hard to provide for your child you're doing brill, the toddler years are hard but you'll get through them with a happy well cared for little DC

Have you got some holiday built up at work to take a couple of days to go to the park or visit a relative?

Xx

I am in my 40's and a parent. It's bloody hard work! Have you family support?, if not look up homestart as they may be able to provide some support locally. It won't always be like this but at 2 yrs, you are their world 🌎 and whilst that sounds romantically wonderful, I remember dreaming of just having a wee on my own!