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9 year old attention span

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Pootles34 · 15/07/2019 12:56

My son is nearly 9, all the way through his school career they've always said he is a bright boy but he needs to pay attention. If something grabs his interest, he's away, but if not, he's looking out the window, playing with pencils, etc. We've had exactly the same from swimming teachers, cub leaders, and now his violin tutor.

I've always thought it was just him being a kid, and still think that a bit, but what if there's something else? Is this completely normal? I think maybe it is, but could do with some reassurance.

He is behind at school, and is under the SENCO, but just because of being 'behind' not any specific issue iyswim. We have asked if he needs to be assessed, they were useless, gave us a number for some local authority place they said might be able to help, but they were worse than useless and said 'oh the school can do it'.

Obviously it's not the best time to be thinking about this with 1 week of term to go, but I just wanted some thought/experiences from others. Help!

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SmartPlay · 16/07/2019 10:27

In general I would say it's normal - my daughter is like that as well. She simply is a dreamy person, that's just her personality. Makes her creative as well. Since she's never disturbed anyone (like your son, she looked out the window or things like that) and did well at school, I wasn't concerned.

However, since your son is behind, that's a different issue. SO I would certainly try to increase his ability to concentrate - actually the summer holidays are a great time for that, because you can implement some things at home during his time off.

I'd start with thinking about his usual day, or his life in general. Is he being entertained much? By you or anyone else, by TVs, computers, etc? If children are being entertained a lot, they don't learn or unlearn how to entertain themselves and get bored easily. This might be a cause for you son quickly losing focus as soon as he doesn't find something very interesting (= isn't being entertained by his teacher).

Another thing is distractions: In order to learn to concentrate on something and really focus, a child has to be able to do that without being distracted. Distraction can come in many forms - background noise from a TV, radio, etc. Siblings or parents who are disturbing the child while being concentrated. Too many toys, a too crowded play area. Just some examples.

Now ideally these things should be avoided from early on, basically from when they are a baby, but of courses changes can be made at any time.

What you can also do - additionally to the changes above, or if the above mentioned things don't apply to your son - is get him to do activities that require attention and concentration, so that he can slowly increase his ability to concntrate.

That could be board games which require a certain amount of concentration (e.g. memory), drawing (free drawing or also coloring books - there are coloring books for older children and even grown ups with a lot of small spaces), balancing, climbing, chopping vegetables, ....

Did he recently start with the violin? An instrument is really great for concentration! Make sure he practises daily and slowly increase the time he has to practise at once.

greenwaterbottle · 16/07/2019 10:30

Is he competitive with himself?
I'm thinking a set of questions just above his ability and he times himself to get them all right.
Hopefully cutting his time down and learning something.
Go for short intense bursts.
Star chart with an outing to look forward to?
Is it that he doesn't care, or that you don't find out how he's done at school so there's no repercussions

SmartPlay · 16/07/2019 11:18

Oh, I forgot: Make sure he gets a lot of exercise!

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