Can you make siblings close?

[Afrog]

I have a DD and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again (assuming everything goes well with the pregnancy)

I’m close to my brother but not to my sister (she has ASD so she’s in her own little world a lot, plus she’s 7 years older than me)

DH has got 3 brothers and they all get along at Christmas apart from one brother.

Is there a way in which I can get DCs to be close? Or is it just luck?

I know I’ve got a while yet but I’m just musing

IMO it's entirely luck.

My DB is 2 years older than me and we didn't get along to the extent it was one of the reasons I left home at 17. He was very much abetted by our DM.

As adults, especially now both parents are gone, we rub along OK. Due to his self-centredness, he's still single at 58 and is okay with that, but he has dinner at ours once a week and helps on DIY projects, comes for Xmas.

DH and his brother are allegedly 'close' as it was enforced by their DM, but his DB is 7 years older than DH. DH is, as an adult rather exasperated by his DB who is a Daily Mail style, rather ignorant country bumpkin.DH talks to him on the phone once a week but within 4 sentences, they're talking footy.

My DS are 2 years apart and get on really well. The don't go out together, but in the house, they game together and chat together, and are quite huggy generally. They miss each other when DS1 is at uni.

No idea what's different!

I did do what I could to avert jealousy when DS2 was born, like when DS1 came to see me in hospital, it was important that DS2 was in a bassinet, not in my arms, and that his first introduction to DS2 was via 'Here's a present from the baby to you' (toy truck).

We made sure DS1 has his own special time with us away from DS2 during the day but DS1 soon learned that it was better for all of us if DS2's needs were met in a timely manner, but DS1 would pass me creams and nappies etc.

I could also BF in bed of a morning with one arm around DS1, watching TV together.

So I did what I could but I think it ultimately was luck!

Thanks! Assuming all goes ok with this pregnancy, there will only be a 13 month age gap. (Whoops )

Does that make a difference?