Hello,
Just wondering if anyone has advice on this?
My daughter’s father (separated 5 years, divorced 4) was a compulsive gambler, gambled my savings, stole from me and my daughter (and parents, and neighbours). Although he’s now remarried, working (a bit) and happy, going out and on holidays a lot, and says what a committed father he is and is devastated she won’t see him, he still objected to paying maintenance and so had to go through collect and pay.
Years ago he blackmailed me into lending him money from my daughter’s savings. Some of that money was from his father’s inheritance, so that was the angle he took. It was allegedly to enable him to take on a work contract and get back on his feet.
Now he’s refusing to pay her back unless I show him all the bank statements and where any money has gone. He has never paid into the account, and apart from the money from his father the only people who have paid in are me and my parents - quite a significant amount, that pays school fees etc.
Given his history or fraud and theft and the fact he’s never contributed willingly, I object to showing him accounts or justifying anything.
He’s quoting “parental responsibility” at me. Does this extend to involvement with a child’s finances? My daughter is nearly 16.
Thank you!