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AIBU - my childs father shows no interest

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Amy530x · 09/07/2019 14:08

My babys father sees him During the week , one day for a few hours. We are amicable. However when he comes down now our son is getting to the stage that he is more clingy to me and screams when his dad holds him. In any other circumstance I would say unless he was extermely distraught I should pop out and let his father deal with it but he has never lived in the house with us, we weren’t together when our child was born and he has never bothered to want to come and do any night feeds or anything with our son or try and make an effort to build more of a bond. He just can’t seem to comfort him either no matter how much I try guide him into giving our son a cuddle or trying to soothe him with a nicer manner. I would say if he did this our son would definitely settle. He just says “what’s wrong with you” a million times over. And gives our son back to me. Now he has started to want to go out places in the contact time he has. I’m assuming it’s because he can’t handle the baby. He has never been great at communicating with him but it’s gotten worse and all he does is Drive a long route somewhere. Takes our baby out in the pram and just pushes him and hardly speaks a word to him. I’d been thinking about building contact time up but him doing this now makes me really nervous to leave them alone. What should I do??

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hormonesorDHbeingadick · 10/07/2019 05:54

Can you suggest taking him to a Saturday baby/toddler class?

Pineapplefish · 10/07/2019 06:48

It's so tricky. The problem is that the only way for them to start building a bond, and for your ex to start understanding his son's needs, is for them to have more contact time. But I can totally see why you wouldn't want that at the moment!

hormones suggestion is good. Sometimes there's a class aimed at dads and babies.

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