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treesnbutterflys · 07/07/2019 15:16

I didn't know where to put this thread but I wanted to ask a question I'm hoping someone can answer. My ex is not a nice person and the last thing he said to me was that I was a piece of shit and to shut the fuck up on the phone and then blocked me on everything but I am pregnant with his child and while I've thought about an abortion I've made up my mind and I'm not going to have one. What I wanted to ask about was contact. Should I put him on the birth certificate and if I don't I'm sure he'll take me to court...? And how can I make a legal agreement with him about the days and times he can see the baby that he has to stick to and not mess me around with...(I will be in a completely different city). Also can he then stop me from leaving the country if I wanted to? Please help I can't find any answers. Thanks. Typing is being weird because I copy pasted sorry.

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BackforGood · 07/07/2019 19:36

Speak to Women's Aid to get all your questions answered.

treesnbutterflys · 07/07/2019 20:03

@BackforGood but will they help me even though I haven't reported any abuse and don't want to? The thing is while he was really really nasty to me and used me and worse I also lost my shit with him a few times and swore at him. I don't think it's comparable but I also don't plan on reporting him. Will they still help me? Can I just leave his name off the birth certificate but couldn't he just take me to court and get access anyway?

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Thegirlhasnoname · 07/07/2019 20:43

If you’re not married he would need to be with you to have his name put on the birth certificate. Having him on it would mean that he has parental rights which could then enable him to objecting to you taking the baby out of the country.

Sure, he could apply to the courts to have his name put on the birth certificate after the event (as far as I know anyway) but it would cost him and a lot of blokes you read about on this site never actually make the effort of doing it anyway.

Good luck!

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Aquamarine1029 · 07/07/2019 20:46

I wouldn't even consider putting his name on the birth certificate. Does he even know you're pregnant? If he doesn't, I wouldn't tell him.

BackforGood · 07/07/2019 21:30

Yes they will help you.

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