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Melyn · 07/07/2019 12:00

Hey everyone, need an opinion on this as I'm wondering if I'm overreacting. My dh Uncle and his wife have a son who's 2 months older than my son, when my son was 6 months we baby sat their son and everything went well, he settled in our room as we didn't want to put him alone in my son's room despite him being old enough. Skip to 2 months later, dh's Uncle and wife ask to look after our son for the night, have no problem with it, dh and I went on a date night, they look after him for the night and when we come back in the morning to pick him up they drop into conversation that they put my son in his travel cot downstairs in the living room... on his own in December. Their living room gets very cold during the day when heating is on and off, their heating was off for the whole night.. They say their reason for this is they didn't want to move their son's Christmas presents from his room to make room for my son in his travel cot. Uncle's wife made a joke complaining saying my son was up and down all night, he woke up 9 times during the night. He's been sleeping through the night for 4 months by this point (he was 8 months old here). I felt awful for putting my son in that position, he's 2 now and I find it difficult to trust them alone with him. I've cancelled plans last minute when dh's Mum couldn't look after our son because I'd rather not go than trust them to look after our son. Just need opinions really, am I overreacting? Thanks

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Pineapplefish · 07/07/2019 12:22

Hi OP. What they did certainly wasn't great, but it wasn't really terrible either. Your son was safe and even if he was a bit chilly, there was no harm done. If you don't want to leave your son with them overnight then that's absolutely fine, but I do think you need to try and forget about it as it was a long time ago now and you still seem anxious about it.

mindutopia · 07/07/2019 12:38

I would say yes, you’re overreacting. Presumably this happened nearly 2 years ago now? It’s actually much safer for a baby of that age to be somewhere a bit chilly (hopefully you would have provided appropriate winter sleeping clothes and they will have used them). I would find it quite odd to sleep with someone else’s baby in my room. But I think if that’s what you expected, it should have been made clear from the start.

I’m sure he’s fine though. Some babies sleep in separate rooms from birth. Some babies are exposed to secondhand smoke in the home. Some babies are left to cry in hunger all night because their parents read in some book that it will make the ‘more independent’. These things are genuinely worrying. But sleeping one night in a travel cot in a drafty lounge is not really that worrying and I think for your own wellbeing you need to let it go.

Melyn · 07/07/2019 12:56

It wasn't just that it was cold, they have a cat that liked to sit on their son when he was sleeping who sleeps in the lounge and 2 dogs that are a little wild that are in the kitchen who can hope the baby gate. I don't know, it felt like a dangerous situation to put him in if there are animals around aswell as it being cold. My question is would you leave your own children in the lounge on their own all night? I wouldn't, so I wouldn't do it to someone else's child.

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ranibowsprimkle · 07/07/2019 13:11

I wouldn't fall out with them over it but I definitely wouldn't leave my children unsupervised with someone that prioritises their kids Christmas presents over my children's well-being

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