Help crazy two year old

[Magic32019]

I'm at my wits end I really don't know what to try with my 2.5 year. We are currently struggling to get her to go to sleep every single night for about the last month.
I initially thought she didn't like being in her cot bed as her big sister is in a bed so we opted to give her a big girl bed and since that point she has been going nuts. Trashing their bedroom ripping out all the clothes from drawers and wardrobe. I removed all toys to make room calmer no difference as the clothes will still be pulled out.
in desperation we put her cot bed back together yesterday with both sides back on but she now thinks it's super fun to climb out or launch things at her sister. We are trying the sit with her till she falls asleep not working as she just keeps asking mummy and daddy questions. She has also ripped wallpaper off and crayoned the wall in last week too. We are sadly taking up too four hours a night to get her too fall asleep and she wakes again at 6am when only weeks ago she would go to bed at seven.
Nothing has changed apart from bed it's always book/bath teeth story bed. I purchased a Teddy which my friend kindly wrote a letter from saying I'm here to help you sleep and be a big girl it hasn't worked and the lack of sleep is affecting her behaviour in the day.
Sorry for jumble post but I'm lost with what to do we stay busy pretty much everyday with groups and then park after tea so we are wearing her out or atleast we think we are she also isnt given biscuits or chocolate or sugary things but does drink alot of squash.
Also for information at groups during the week she is the best behaved child people comment on how lovely she is yet at home she is a monster help 😣

Is she napping at all? If she is knock it off.

I would go with the supernanny approach. Do all the normal bedtime routine, settle both children in, say goodnight, sit in doorway. If she starts getting out just put her straight back in. Tell her it's bedtime.

After first few times, no communication at all, just physically putting her back if she starts getting out/trying to throw things. No communication is the key. You can put her back without her earning your attention. Try to be robotic. Keep going back to the doorway, sit down. Don't answer any questions.

The first night or 2 she might enjoy a game of "how many times until mummy cracks" but if you stay silent and stick her out it will work.

It's just a question of determination. Yours had to be greater than hers.

Hi thanks for reply I will give this a try anything is worth a go 🙂

No advice but my 2.5 year old is doing the same at the moment - gone from amazing sleeper loving his bed to running around like a lunatic then crashing out at 10pm only to wake up at 6.

We do the robotic thing and he just finds it hilarious but we stick with it because he reacts the same whether we get angry, try and talk sense or ignore him so we are persevering.

I dont think cutting naps will help - ours still has 1-3 hours and slept through fine, I cut it the other day and he was absolutely horrendous by bed time. He had a 3 hour nap yesterday and was slightly less horrendous last night so I dont see that making much difference but it might be worth a try.

I'm hoping once the weather cools off a bit and the nights a re darker (he loves looking out the window) things will improve. Hope they do for you too!

Does she still have a daytime nap? My DS is 2.5 and will nap for 2-3 hours in the day if left to it but then he goes crazy at night and won't go to bed/sleep etc. We wake him after an hour now and he is a bit more settled at night as long as we manage to catch it at the window where he's tired but not overtired (otherwise he goes nuts!). Agree with PP on the super nanny approach, it takes a few days but if you can persevere it does help.
Also just to say that I think it's supposed to be a sign that your little one is really secure at home when they act out for you but are angels with everyone else, means they are confident you will be there and love them etc no matter what they do (although the seem to like to test that theory a lot!) :D