DP critical of my parenting

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Just wondering if anyone else’s DP/DH criticises your parenting?
We have one DD who is 12 months, I just feel like I’m being constant criticised by DP for small things. Some examples: DD’s hair was still a little damp after her bath. DP said the reason she keeps getting colds is because I don’t dry her hair properly (that’s not the reason, she is teething and picks up a lot of bugs from the children at the childminder’s). If she still has dried food on her face after a meal (tiny bits missed by a baby wipe) he chastises me for not wiping her face thoroughly enough. If she wriggles when I’m changing her nappy he says it’s because I’m not strict enough.
It all sounds so petty written down but it really hurts my feelings.

Does he do any parenting or just criticise you?
I can understand why you’re feeling hurt.

Thanks for your reply. He works long hours and plays football twice a week so the majority of parenting falls to me.

Hand him the baby and walk away, if he wants to demonstrate “proper care” then let him

baby’s are tough x

I'd say "yes darling, you're so right, I think you need to stop going to football so you can spend that time at home showing me how to parent properly".

As pp said, hand him the baby and he can then demonstrate this superior parenting.
And you’re going out on Saturday morning and one evening a week to do your hobby so he can have some quality time with the baby.

Agree with the other posts, I was thinking as I read that I wonder what he does to help.
Assuming you work as well as you mentioned a childminder, so when are your 2 time a week you go out?

Next time tell him if he doesn't like it to feel free to do it himself!

I work part time, I have an occasional night out but no time for hobbies or other interests whilst DD is so young. I love being her mum and I think I’m doing an okay job (always my absolute best!) so it feels very hurtful to be critisised when I’m doing nearly everything.
You are all right though, need to call him out next time he says something.

Your not been strict enough with a 12 month old? Babies don’t need you to be strict.

I used to find this sort of thing hurtful but now I can identify ridiculous comments and respond appropriately. Eg moans about house being untidy 'ok off you go and tidy up'. Complaint about playhouse stopping grass from growing and that I should move it off the grass every week after the weekend 'ok you feel free to move it then'. It has taken a while and I struggled when I was sleep deprived and on maternity leave (as I felt I should be doing everything at home since I wasn't working). Practice has helped though!!