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BringMeThatHorizon · 01/07/2019 09:54

Looking for advice please! My DS is almost 9 months and he is just so grouchy and miserable all the time.

I try and do fun and stimulating things with him in the day, we go out of the house at least twice, even if it's just to the park or a walk around the local shops. We go to baby groups at least 2/3 days a week, I take him swimming, we sometimes get the train into London (I live on the outskirts) to meet DH or friends for lunch or go for a walk down the river etc. I've got a good group of mum friends locally with babies the same age who we see a couple of times a week usually. At home he has lots of toys, jumperoo etc. I sit with him and encourage him to move around, play music, sing to him.

If he's in the pushchair for more than 30 minutes awake he gets really worked up and starts screaming until I get him out, which limits the places we can go, same for the sling. If I sit with him on my lap he arches his back and wants to get down. If I put him down he grabs my legs and wants to be picked up. If I leave him even for a second with his toys to go to the toilet or get a drink he screams the place down. If I pop him on the bed while I get dressed he'll have real tears running down his cheeks within minutes, even if I'm talking to him the whole time.

He won't tolerate being on his tummy, just flips straight over and cries. He hates being laid down on his back and just wants to be sat up. He loves standing and walking around with me holding his hands, but I can't do that all day.

He's had two teeth through about a month ago which did make him extra grumpy for a few days, but no sign of any more at the moment. People keep saying it's a leap or a phase and it'll pass but it never does.

Not really sure what I'm asking, I'm just upset that it's almost time for me to go back to work and I still feel like I'm just getting through the days rather than enjoying my time with him.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Rosebud1302 · 01/07/2019 11:42

OP hugs first of all. It is so tough having a highly strung baby. My boy has been like this and now he is crawling and pulling up on things to cruise around he is SO much happier. I know it doesn't massively help but things will get better. It sounds like a lot of frustration to me and also he may be going through separation anxiety which is really tough but peaks at around 8-10 months old. There isn't a magic cure I don't think apart from to try and ride it out as best you can. Honestly I know how you feel and it's tough but things for us are so much better now. Hang in there x

DreamingofSunshine · 01/07/2019 11:48

Another one saying that once he is moving he'll be much happier. DS didn't crawl until 10m and was cruising at 11m and he was so much happier then.

ErrolTheDragon · 01/07/2019 11:52

This too shall pass... honestly.

It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. Just that you're an intelligent adult frustrated by a demanding little one ... and he's an intelligent small human frustrated by being unable to move independently and communicate fluently.

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