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Children's party... lack of attendees. Help!

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Asklexa · 30/06/2019 19:47

My daughter is set on having a birthday party "like her class friends have had." Unfortunately, her birthday is in August, which can make it difficult to get enough friends etc together due to holidays etc.

Against my better judgement, being swept along by DHs big ideas, we have booked a room, the cake and a childrens entertainer. My daughter is very excited.

I am yet to give out the invitations, but mentioned to around 10 mums last week at school that we were having the party and literally 2 of them said they would be able to make it due to summer holidays and other commitments. Even her 2 best friends are on holiday.

I've since asked her 2 non-school friends and 1 of them is busy too.

Have we made a terrible mistake? Should I cancel the party now and take her on a little holiday instead to soften the blow? Do we go ahead anyway and hope for the best? I'm terrified this is going to be a disaster. I can't do a small party at home either as her best friends are unable to attend.

What should I do?

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Daffodil101 · 30/06/2019 19:51

Can you do it very early in September? I wouldn’t go ahead

SunnyNights · 30/06/2019 19:52

Can you move it to end of July instead, before school breaks up?

My two sons are both August, and we only did one party actually around their birthdays. Hardly anyone came as so many people were on holiday. So we now have their parties around mid-July, then we are away on holiday on their actual birthdays anyway.

isittheholidaysyet · 30/06/2019 19:54

Move it to the start of September. 1st weekend after they are back at school.

Give out invitations now. And then a reminder invitation on the first day back to school.

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EdtheBear · 30/06/2019 19:55

I'd postpone it until after the holidays.

moreismore · 30/06/2019 19:56

Definitely move the party!

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/06/2019 20:03

Move the party date- to July or September
(I have an August baby and figure I will have to do it before school breaks up and celebrate
With family on her actual day)

alwaysonadiet1 · 30/06/2019 20:04

We have an August birthday too. We do a small picnic on the day for whoever is around and big party on first weekend after term starts. Works well but tell people the September date before the end of term.

Mrsjayy · 30/06/2019 20:09

Just move it i am assuming you can get deposits back but i think doing it when school is back will be better for her and your anxiety levels.

RandomMess · 30/06/2019 20:13

2 August birthdays here always did party in September

Earslaps · 30/06/2019 20:17

Agree with others to move it.

My DS1 has his birthday in the school holidays (late July), so we always have his party before school breaks up. One of his friends has her birthday late August so has her party in September- invitations go out in July with a reminder just before.

On DS's birthday we usually let him to something with a friend (plus a sleepover with that friend now he's a bit older).

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Asklexa · 01/07/2019 13:11

I would move to Septembet but worry about her feeling left out that her friends will be having parties that month as they turn 7 whilst she will be celebrating turning 6.

Has anyone found this a problem?

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aPengTing · 01/07/2019 13:16

I’ve never known a child be upset because of the age thing. She’ll feel shit though if hardly any friends turn up to her party, move it to September.

RandomMess · 01/07/2019 13:30

Nah they are just excited they're having a party!

DefConOne · 01/07/2019 16:36

Been there with a 30th August birthday girl. After two stressful parties I now book it for mid September. Some of her friends are having their next birthdays at this stage which worried me but has not been any problem.

My daughter likes to have two birthdays 'like the Queen'.

growlingbear · 01/07/2019 16:39

Can't you move it to July - just before break up of school? That's what we did (two summer borns here too.)

notatwork · 01/07/2019 16:44

Either pull it forward to July (ideally) or push it back to September.
Then on her birthday have a family celebration.

Emmapeeler · 01/07/2019 16:46

My DS is a late August birthday and we have the party the first week of September, when everyone is suddenly around!

Emmapeeler · 01/07/2019 16:46

Ps on the birthday = day out.

Emmapeeler · 01/07/2019 16:48

Oh, but if doing it in Sept send the invites out before the end of term...

NotNowNinja · 01/07/2019 16:48

Honestly move it to September the age thing won’t be an issue at all

GrandmaSharksDentures · 01/07/2019 16:49

My son has a late August birthday. He has his party in July after experiencing this exact same problem. He like it as he now get 2 lots of presents (party presents from friends & family presents on his birthday).

We do the party in July rather than Sept because some of his friends have their birthdays in Sept and he will be having his (for example) 6th birthday party while they are already having their 7th

Heratnumber7 · 01/07/2019 16:58

We always celebrated my August born DD's birthday in the first week of school in September. It was a really nice get together for the kids when they hadn't seen each other for so long.

BackforGood · 01/07/2019 17:01

Might be a bit late now to book anything, but for future years, you need to hold it in July.
Even people who aren't away, lose track of dates etc and forget.
You've got no chance of getting her friends altogether in August.

This year, you could have it in Sept., but def. go for July in future.

Bourbonbiccy · 01/07/2019 19:39

I have an August baby, this is great for the future for us.

Yeah, I think July sounds like the best plan. This year OP it will probably have to be September though.

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