2 year old obsessed with his aunty and hates me

[AmyLou777]

My 2 year old son is OBSESSED with his aunty (boyfriends sister) who lives next door to us, all he wants to do all day is go to hers and all he says all day is her name. He screams and cries when she gives him back to me and screams NOOOOO when she says to him if he wants to go back to mammy.. i feel i cant avoid this as she lives next door so everytime we are outside he just runs over to her house. All he says all the time is her name and he literally does not care in the slightest for me or anything i try to do or play with him. I feel like moving house or at my lowest even killing myself as whats the point in living if my own son hates me :( i almost feel like just asking her to take him as theres no point in having him with me where all he wants is her :( im crying my eyes out now as he is crying to go over to her house for the 100th time today please someone help:(

I didn't want to read and run. I don't have any experience with 2 year olds but i have read people say that they often go through phases of liking different people around that age and 'hating' their own parent.

Have you tried bribery and taking him out just the two of you to do things he might enjoy? Soft play, walk in the park, feed the ducks if your local park has them, etc.

i am bumping this for you in hopes someone more experienced comes and gives more helpful advice

Firstly, he does not hate you! Don't for a second think that please! As pp has said it's just a phase. A painful one for you but it will pass.

Hopefully someone else has experience with this and can provide more suggestions but definitely make a big deal of mummy son time, even if it's something you'd do normally together like softplay.

oh my love, I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. and for you.

Your son doesn't hate you, you're his mammy, his number 1. He is so confident with you that he knows he can go to Auntie's and not be scared you'll not return. You've given him the confidence to be with someone else.

I would maybe try to do some days out, just the two of you.

Out of interest - what's she like? Whats your take on her?

That sounds very claustrophobic, living so closely with family. I love my sister but I wouldn't want to live next door to her!

all of my kids have gone through phases of really preferring someone else to me. My mum or my partner usually. It honestly does go through phases

Ahh that's a shame.

I have a 2 year old nephew and he will go through phases that he cries about going home and other times he will push me away. That's toddlers for you!

Even though he wants to stay longer sometimes, he still gets excited when he sees my sisters car and squeals when he sees her. I suppose it's just someone different to play with. And different toys (and probably more cake).

Apologies if your scenario is different.