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I hate my life

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Ali246 · 20/06/2019 09:45

I'm tiered of being a mum, I'm tiered of being up every half an hour all night long, I'm tiered of being expected to do everything around the house, I'm tiered of being the first one up with the kids even though my partner laid there sleeping all night whilst I got woken up every time I dozed off. Even though he doesn't work. I'm tiered of doing all the bills, cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, I do it all, no one thinks I need support because I'm the mum. Sometimes I want to run out the door and run and run and run. Please tell me these feelings are somewhat normal? I love my kids but I hate day to day life.

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stucknoue · 20/06/2019 09:49

It's common but it's also a sign that you need to make changes, no sudden ones but do some soul searching, life planning - where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years, then get an action plan together. As for dp, sounds typical and the only answer is talking. I wish I had taken my own advice, it's too easy to be stuck in a rut!

Birdie6 · 20/06/2019 09:52

If DH doesn't work, why are you doing all the child care, night care etc. You mention "no one thinks I need support" - maybe they think that because your DH is at home and not working so they assume that he is doing his share.

You need to have a strong conversation with him - if he isn't working outside the house he should be working at home .

Desmondo2016 · 20/06/2019 09:55

Your issues are your partner. Sort him out and you'd probably find you were happier. Why don't you get a job and leave him to it seeing as he doesn't work?

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NannyRed · 20/06/2019 10:33

Stop enabling him to be such a lazy arse.

Tell him plain and simple “ I was up all night with our child, you need to make kids their breakfast, do the school run and wash the breakfast pots. I’m tired, I’m going to sleep until 11am. Do not disturb me”

Then when you get up, tell him to help with the running of the house. Give him clear, specific instructions. “The bathroom needs cleaning, the kitchen floor needs washing. I’ll do one, you can do the other. Which would you rather do?”

Make it clear to him that if he doesn’t go out to work he can pull his weight at home.

If he thinks it’s ‘womens Works’ to prepare dinner or do some laundry, then stop doing any of the blue ticket jobs you’ve been doing. (We have blue ticket jobs, pink ticket jobs here. If my dh says “the grass needs cutting this weekend” I just reply “that’s a blue ticket job” )
Establish what each of you will do.

Either he goes out to work or he helps you and you can both have set jobs.

Otherwise why be with him? If you’re doing all the hard work on your own, you might as well be on your own and if you were on your own at least you’d get every other weekend off from being a mum.

If you don’t let him know how you feel, he will never guess, men seem ignorant of our feelings sometimes.

Talk to him today. Best of luck, I hope you can work things out.

Petitprince · 20/06/2019 10:35

Why are you with him?

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