My ex consistently shows no moral compass and a lack of care when he has our two kids. We have a 7 year old (currently being assessed for learning problems) and a 15 year old daughter. As one example tonight my daughter called to say that on the way to their dad's my son got in a mood and ran across the road. I asked if their dad had hold of him and he didn't so I had to insist he held his sisters hand. I then receive a video from my daughter of her dad talking about a mate wanting drugs and that he new a few dealers but was undecided on what to do. On their way home I then got a call from my daughter to say my son had ran in the road. Her dad was walking with his bike so was leaving it for her to run after him and grab hold of him. I called the ex and asked if he had hold of him but he didn't so had to ask him to give our daughter the bike so he had control of our son.
My ex smoked weed when we were together and it was one of the main problems in our relationship. I have stipulated to him that I don't want drugs around the kids and that he needs to steer clear of conversations unless it is to say that drugs are wrong.
With regards to our boy he knows there are concerns with his learning and sense of danger.
Please anyone can you give me some advice on my options I really don't know where to turn. I want my kids to have a safe relationship with their dad