I had my first DC at 18. They are 14 now and I’m days away from turning 33. I always wanted more than one child but things didn’t work out with DC1’s dad nor my next relationship.
I’m now in a great relationship with someone who has no kids, and has always said they wanted their own.
We’ve been together for about a year and a half and when we first met I was pretty certain I wanted more DC. However now I feel a bit on the fence. I spent my late teens and all my twenties with a baby/young child and feel like I’ve missed out on a lot of experiences and travelling. I’ve got an ok job but it’s not my dream. There’s so much of the world I haven’t seen and want to experience or things I would generally like to do and having no more DC would give me the time and energy to see what else life has to offer.
If I have more DC I’ll be spending most of my adult life with a child to put first. Equally I do feel broody and like the idea of having another child.
I just don’t know what I want to do, at 33 I don’t have ages left if I do want to have more children so I do feel it’s almost now or never.
Has anyone else had to make this choice or decided to have another DC after a huge gap?