How often do you get out the house with baby?

[carrieivie]

I have a 4 month old and have to be honest the last two days I have pre period back ache and fatigue so me and baby have been indoors. I cannot help but feel lazy and selfish for this.

Does this happen with anyone else? I normally take her baby group 3 times a week and try get out at least once a day.

How do women with more than one cope?!

It's nice to have the odd PJ day I think! Especially when they're little. I'm a year ahead and we have to go out in all weather's because toddlers are bundles or adorable yet annoying energy.

I'd love to stay in! If only my son would let me, lol! He's 8 months old now but pretty much since he was born he's been such hard work that it's easier to be out than in the house. When he was tiny he would only nap in the pram or car so we were always out. As he got older be gets bored of playing with the same toys - he has such a short attention span- so we go out twice a day usually, once in the morning, between his morning and lunchtime naps (now he naps best in his cot!) which is usually a baby or mummy/baby fitness class, or the supermarket, then once after his lunch nap, which might be meeting a friend, going to a National Trust place or the farm or park etc. It is exhausting!! He is in the house for a few hours each day too apart from his naps but it gets a bit tedious trying to keep him entertained!

Everyday. I could never do indoor days, even pre baby, as they make me feel slovenly and I end up getting too in my own head. They are something I wish I could enjoy. Baby doesn’t need to go out everyday and if it suits you, stay in.

Everyday and sometimes it's just to get out for some fresh air and sunshine.

I think you are doing plenty with your lo so don't feel guilty. Look after yourself! 💐

@carrieivie same boat as you with a 3 month old! I try and get out at least every other day, but always happy to have a day at home too.

I would love to have a pj day so enjoy it. I have a 2 yr old and a 7 month old so we are out everyday by 9.30. I don't drive so it's always local places. My village has a toddler group on Tues-Fri so we go to these groups in mornjng. Mon we go to the shops or a friend's. Naptime at 12 then activities at home and possibly park trip before dinner. Toddler has to be out but with such a young baby, I would make the most of it. When baby turns into a toddler you won't be able to do it anymore so don't feel guilty. Enjoy. You could always do some baby sensory activities at home. Check out Instagram x

I’ve got a 4 month old too. I try and get out most days even if it’s just to Lidl!

@surreygirl1987 I feel your pain - 7 months old, been like yours from birth. Naps only in buggy but doesn’t have to be moving, which SHOULD give me some blissful sit-down time.....but she only naps 2 or 3 half hours a day.

Am looking forward to returning to full time teaching for a rest!

If it helps, apparently I was the same but my younger sister was the most chilled out, relaxed baby ever....

If you enjoy being in don't stress. I hate being in (4.5yo and 1.5yo) and try and get out at least to the park every day. I get so bored and fed up otherwise and the kids start going a bit feral and wrestling each other....

Most days, if I didn't go out I felt pretty bad.

I get out once a day with my 8 month old. Any more messes up naps and any less i feel guilty and think she must be bored.

I went out every day on mat leave, but that was because I wanted to. I don't think you have to feel guilty for not - it makes more of a difference to you than the baby.

I still remember someone on MN telling me, in a thread about keeping on top of the housework with a little baby, that I should be spending at least every other day in so that 'I could get on top of things in the house'. What shit advice, and what a recipe for feeling depressed and isolated, that was.

@nomushrooms
Yeh apparently both myself AND my husband were terrors as babies so my little boy had no chance 😂 to be fair, he naps brilliant in his cot these days (never used to - he used to need only motion!) but is so full-on energetic that he needs to be out and about as much as possible.

I'm a teacher too. Returning to work just before the holidays... hope you're doing that too - best timing ever 😂 enjoy the 'rest' when you go back... Never thought I'd say that about teaching!!!

I think, be kind to yourself 💐💐💐💐

I get out everyday with DS but it is not the end of the world if you have a PJ day or 2.
Do you have a garden that you could sit out in with your baby so you are both still getting a bit of fresh air? If not, it's really not a issue having a day in.

@surreygirl1987 Yep, heading back for two weeks at end of term so will get a decent end of July paycheque 😃

MIL is very excited about her 4 days a week childcare she’s going to be doing, keeps saying she can’t wait to play lots of games at home. I wished her good luck.....

Hahahaha. My boy is going to nursery in September but the in-laws are really excited about babysitting for the three weeks that I'm back at work before the summer holidays. They have NO idea what's about to hit them... 😂

My little one can be hard work when indoors so I’m out every day. I walk for miles, spend money that I don’t have, ruin baby groups for everyone else etc etc. On the days he’s settled I do enjoy staying in but I generally catch up on bottle washing / clothes washing / piss about on the internet / achieve absolutely nothing.

I met a woman at a book club who said she was so bored on maternity that she casually wrote a best selling novel. I’m sure she’s lovely but I still hate her

Every day without fail

For mine and their sakes. I’m a HUGE fan of the outdoors and all it brings

My DD2 is 4 months old. I try and go on a small walk with her everyday. Some days we do baby group or the odd day a PJ day.

I don't include three school run as our walk though.

I have three older DC so have to do the school run which is an hours round trip each time if I choose to walk it. I do walk it most days so we get some fresh air and I get some exercise. Aside from this and trips to the shop, I barely go anywhere with him tbh. We go to swim class once a week and always go out at the weekend with my older DC and DP. I tried rhyme time at the library but DS was the youngest by far, the rest were toddlers and DS just looked a bit baffled .

Don’t beat yourself up, it’s hard enough as it is without making yourself feel guilty.

@Abouttimemum laughed out loud at your post 😂🙌

Every morning and/or afternoon that they're with me. They are a pain in the arse if we stay at home and it just drags if no friends are over.

I try to every day, even for just a walk- but I wouldn't feel guilty about staying in if I wanted to. As long as your baby is cared for then I really don't think not getting out all the time will affect them. Be kind to yourself!

Probably 3 days a week, that doesn't include the school run. There aren't many places to go for a walk around here and I'm not a fan of wandering streets without purpose.

Don't be s hard on yourself. At 4 months, babies are only just beginning to become a little easier IMO. My 11 month old is a rotten sleeper still and I also have days when I barely get round to having a shower and getting dressed. Most of the time it's ok, though, these days. It'll get better for you too.