Mum to be... words of encouragement

[NeedMoreWine81]

Hi All,

I am 27 and married a man who is now 39 (we've been together 6 years now).

All his friends are in their late 30s and most of the women starting having their babies at 35+.

I have found a number of them being very judgmental and calling me a 'young mum'. Especially my husbands, brothers wife... she had her first at 35.

I am about to have our first baby and wish she stop making comments that 'she was having so much fun in her 20's she'd never of had a baby'. She was single until she was 31!

Just getting me down... I didn't think starting a family at 27 was considered young????

They'd shame me!

I moved out at 18 and met my partner at uni, we got married and had our first baby by 21 😂

They're probably just envious, don't take it to heart.

Honestly, to me 27 is young, and I was having fun (and building my career) when I was your age. I was with my partner then, but we didn't have a child until I was 37. But if you're happy doing it now that's great - you're hardly a child! Ignore them.

Ignore them op whilst I don't think 27 is young it isn't exactly old either and personally I think it's a nice age late 20s early 30's to have children

I’m pregnant with my second child and scored 1 on the risk factor assessment because I’m over 35. Medically you are not young and if you are having more than one child then it’s a good time to start.

I can understand how comments like that get on your nerves, I'd feel the same though I'm sure they don't mean to upset you. If it really bothers you, you could say something to the person and maybe she will be more tactful in future.

Congratulations by the way.

Just reply with, "Not a young mum, in my prime actually!" And if you want to be extra snarky with them make a comment about not waiting to wait until mid to late thirties because of the various risk factors with "old" age!

Yes I love the "not young, in my prime" comment.
But I'm sure they don't want to upset you, I can see how it would be annoying to hear it constantly. I also would not have thought 27 would be classed as young to become a mum.

And to the lady who was saying she was having too much fun in her 20' , you are 27 and there still lots of fun to be had after a baby arrives, it's not the bloody end of your fun, my husband and I have lots of fun, it's just different.

I think 27 is a great age, congratulations 💐💐

I think 27 is a really good age to start a family as is a year or two either side. The people making comments are just being silly, pay no attention to them.