Son wants to live with his dad

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Has any other mums had to experience there son wanting to go live with there dad?

How old is your son?

How old is he?

Every other week. How old is your son?

Hes 12 years old.

From the other end. My husband’s son moved in with us when he was 14. He wasn’t getting on with his mother. We lived same area so he went to same school.
Then my other stepson wanted to move in too. By that time I had a second child and as the older boys didn’t get on that well I felt I couldn’t do a baby, toddler and two warring teens while my husband travelled 100 nights a year. Plus I thought his ex would think I was stealing her sons. He did move in eventually after the oldest moved out at 18.

DS(11) lives with his dad & has done for almost 3 years.

We split up & I wanted to move out of the area we lived in to be closer to my family but DS wanted to stay at his school & close to his friends & his dad was staying in the village so after lots of discussion about how things would work it was decided to be in DS's best interests to live with his dad.

We have a schedule of EOW & set holidays etc but it's fairly flexible & we come & go to suit DS.

I won't lie it was really difficult for the first while but in all honesty you get used to it & now it's just our normal. I do feel like I have to justify the reasoning when people realise I have another child & he doesn't live with me but that's society conditioning to think that mums should have the kids & I know that we made the right decision.

I suppose it depends on your DS's reasons for the move & how practical it would be.