Leaving my baby.

[West27]

I’ve got to go to my Nans funeral. It’s far away and not fair to travel with the kids & have to stay overnight. My MIL is having the kids but I have such bad anxiety about leaving my youngest she is only 3 months old and is exclusively bf. Shall I take the risk of taking her with me & having to leave if it becomes too much for her? Or leave her with her brother & Nan? She’s very much a mummy’s girl will she be ok or am I overthinking it?!

Does she take a bottle? Personally I’d take the baby with me.

How far is "far", and how are you getting there?

If she's ebf, will she take a bottle? If so, MIL will be fine with her.
If she doesn't, why not take her with you . Chances are she'll sleep through the ceremony and you can wear something where you can pop her on to feed if she grizzles.
I used to get quite miserable if I had to leave my ebf ones when they were very small. So if you're the same way don't make an already upsetting day harder on yourself.

Normally I advocate for parents to leave the little ones and get away. But in this case, three months and ebf I would bring her. She may not take the bottle and she probably won't be any issue at a funeral either. I took 3 month old DS to a wedding and he was perfectly fine and quiet.

We took our DS to a funeral when he was 4 months as there wasn't anyone to have him (he was FF). It was fine and lots of people were happy to see/meet him. We sat at the back and I would have taken him out if he'd started crying.

I'd definitely take her. No one will expect a tiny baby to "behave" well, so no one will be offended if you have to nip out for a couple of minutes to settle her. Hopefully she'll be asleep or feeding throughout though and you won't have to miss any of it.

In a lot of countries mothers start to work again when the baby is three months old. Your baby can handle it. However, can you let it go enough? Your visit has a purpose and if you keep worrying about your baby it might be best to take her with you.

I would take the baby with me, breastfed babies are easy to keep quiet, just wear clothes that you can feed discretely in

I’d take the baby, they don’t care where they are or what vehicle they’re trapped on as long as they’re with you. Equally baby will be fine with MIL I just see no reason not to bring her with you.

Take baby. A 3 month old will be no bother - maybe even feed her in the service. Take a sling with you. And a baby will be comforting to the relatives afterwards I expect

Take the baby

I would 100% take the baby. I wouldn't be happy leaving a 3 month old. Mine is nearly 5 months and I hated leaving him for an afternoon this week

100% take the baby.

Yea i would take the baby defo!

Take her with you. I had to take my EBF baby to a close family funeral and he was quiet as a mouse all through the service, and everyone was so glad to have him there at the wake as he gave everyone something to talk about that wasn't grief and heartbreak (it was a sudden death).
Sorry about your Nan

Sorry about your Nan

How far away is it? I took mine to a funeral when he was 2mo and just stayed in the back of the church so I could pop out if he fussed. He ended up being brilliant, not making a peep (though shocked by the organ music!) And slept in his pram most of the wake. I just snuck off to bf him in a different room.