Constant wee accidents

[BertieDrapper]

So my DD is 3.5 and has been Potty Trained since October last year. She is generally really good. Had no accidents at childminders or when out and about (mostly)

But she keeps having accidents at home, mainly in the early evening. We can tell she needs to go and we ask but she is always adamant she doesn't need to!
We then either take her word for it or have a battle to get her on the loo. If we battle she rarely actually goes as she gets to wound up! If we leave it she ends up wetting herself!

We have tried getting her to go at different points, like if we are about to do a long drive but she will flatly refuse to go at all!!

Just not sure how to handle it. We used to use treats but she was having like 5 a day so had to cut that back. She's not interest in stickers or anything. We've tried to give a deterrent ( you won't get pudding after dinner etc) but it does not work!!!!

How do we best handle this?! X

Have you tried saying that you will be sad if she wees in your knickers when you have just asked her and she has decided to not go. This is the tact I’ve tried recently with my 3yr old who started having accidents at home after been dry for a year. It worked for us.

For the long drives situation I do bribe with a chocolate button.

She wet at a friends BBq recently... first time she's done it away from the house but she was busy playing !
We had to leave as had no spare clothes. We said we had to leave as she had wet herself so now try and say we have to leave if you wet. If you go to the loo we can come back and play-- she still wouldn't go! Finally managed to persuade her but she did the smallest wee.... 15 minutes later she needed a poo!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Will try the sad thing! But she's not the sought to give too boots about our feelings 😂

My daughter was like this. We tried everything including ignoring, praising when she did wee, being kind saying it doesn't matter and at times being cross with her and telling her off for it (not proud of this one but she did test my patience!) None of it worked. It's got better over time, she's 5 now and finally doesn't have any more accidents.

my dd was v similar and I didn't handle it brilliantly tbh. I think she mostly grew out of it.

I did start getting her involved in the clean up, especially when she refused to go when asked and wet a few mins later. pulling off her wet leggings and pants and wiping the puddle with a towel and putting in the machine then washing hands and new clothes on. all with help but her involved too. ballache and much quicker to go when asked. reinforced with a cheery, dd looks like you might need a wee, don't leave it too late or you might have an accident to clean up.