Pregnant with second child

[ohwouldntitbenice]

Just hoping for a bit of reassurance that what's going on my head is normal. I am 19 weeks pregnant and have a 2 year old ds. My thoughts and feelings swing from completely forgetting I'm pregnant and not really feeling anything, to being absolutely terrified that we're going to have a baby again. I'm in a very happy marriage and pregnancy was planned, if a little sooner than expected. I feel guilty when I realise that I've forgotten I'm pregnant and I'm not excited this time round. Then I start to think about having a baby and how hard it was the first time and how much harder I know it will be with a toddler around too. Then I start to think that loads of people have 2 or more children and they're all doing fine so maybe it's just me that feels like I won't be able to cope. Someone tell me I'm not alone in feeling like this.

Very normal, I hope! I could have written your exact post myself, so no words of wisdom, just that you are not alone.

Don't worry it's totally normal to feel like that. Its such a huge thing having babies,I really don't know if we give ourselves enough credit for it. I had my 2nd baby in Jan and we had a 3 yr old at home. It was so crazy,emotional and just tough for the first while as everyone is adjusting to a new way of life. Just try to breath and get thru it,it does get easier but honestly it's very different having ur 2nd but still a magical time 😊 u will cope and as u said lots if people do it and so many people go on to have even more!! Just try to enjoy this time it's so lovely being pregnant and u will never get this time back. Spend lots of time with ds as his little world will be turned upside dwn in about 20 wks time but in a good way 😊 best of luck ☺

Don't worry, you adapt routines a d become amazing at multitasking. I have a 7 month old and a 2 year old. 18 months apart. It hasn't been as hard as I thought. Main things we did was to introduce the idea of baby to toddler before he came along. He adored his baby brother from the moment he met him and now he is 2, helps with bottle feeds, getting his toys etc. Your 2 year old will love to help you. They soon start to entertain each other and I've found that toddler groups and classes keep both engaged. They both nap together too and have same bedtime which helps. Good luck with everything x

P.s I was petrified before my second was born! My 18month old didn't sleep and still co-slept with us. Totally normal to feel that way.