I shouted at my SEN DS and now I wish I could text him at nursery and tell him I'm sorry.

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For context, DS has high functioning ASD and I am pregnant. Every morning is a struggle and today I lost all patience with him. Well, if I'm honest, I snap at him on a daily basis since I've had morning sickness. I'm completely fed up with everything being a bloody catastrophe. Everything causes him to be tearful. I proper shouted at him today because I just can't function properly all the time I feel ill. The poor thing is only 3!

Does anyone have any tips for getting him to keep calm (and me)? He has zero resilience. Every tiny thing is a big deal. I know it's not his fault, but this is so damn hard. He deserves better than this.

I hope you're being kind to yourself and having a nice big mug of tea now that he's (hopefully) in bed.

We all snap sometimes. We can't all be Flop from Bing. He knows you love him.

On the keeping calm I have very few tips other than trying to speak to an OT. I don't know what his SEN are but have a look at sensory hug shirts - might help. Similar idea to a weighted blanket, but you wear it all day.

Your breakfasts sound very similar to ours! DS is always a disaster area in the morning with lots of mini meltdowns about everything. This might not be the kind of advice you’re looking for but I found being super organised has helped him(us). So table laid, cereals all out, lunch box made as far as possible, that kind of stuff. Seems to give him less to get upset about! Please don’t beat yourself up about shouting you’re only human and it’s really tough being pregnant and looking after an older child. My GP told me she thinks all parents are heroes I think she’s right!