Tips for a boy dealing with female bully 9yo/Y3

[ZenNudist]

Ds has been sat next to the class bully. I think the teacher has done it because hes the biggest in his class and eldest in his year, but in a split Y3/Y4 class.

She previously bullied my friend's DD so that's how I know this girl has form.

I've told him not to react to her or give her the satisfaction of attention. He says she is punching him hard in the arm and it sounds like she is keeping up a stream of toxic nastiness whilst they are in class.

Ds has matured a lot lately but its only the last 3-6 months I've not had to worry about him making suicidal statements or threatening to harm himself. I dont want to wrap him in cotton wool and I think he needs to learn to deal with taunts etc.

Any tips? Im going to ask his teacher to move him but he might not want to shift class round again too soon. Ds does want me to speak to teacher.

you should definitely speak to the teacher and they'll know how best to proceed and sort it out - if she's hitting them then they need to do something because that's unacceptable in the classroom, it should be a safe environment for all

I don’t know. I think I would draw the line if my previously suicidal (?) son was being beaten by this girl at school.

We don’t send our children to be beaten and bullied at school , clearly the school are not doing enough to stop this behaviour .

Your child is / may be vulnerable but irrespective of this I don’t think I would expect any child to have to put up with being punched at school .

I would call the headteacher tomorrow and ask for tougher measures to deal with this bullying child .

The self harm thing was he would escalate any punishment whilst not meaning it then get upset so "no tv for tonight" would be met with "fine I will have no TV for the week.....the month.... ever.... waaah.... i might as well kill myself" and actually going to climb over a banister or get a knife out the drawer!

What improved that was when I talked to the headmaster, spoke to the doctor and just taking it seriously caused him to rethink, at the same time I told him to "stop escalating" and tried to calm the rows down. Its good that we seem to have got past that kind of conflict for now.

It turns out he's been sat next to bully all year and some of the other nasty comments hes mentioned in the past Ive just found out its been coming from her.

So given its nearly the end of term I'm not sure its worth getting him moved. I still want the school to deal with her because she is upsetting lots of kids and must be a cry for help herself.

Ive also found out shes moved on from bullying my friend's dd to bullying another girl. I know that mum well enough to tell her to talk to her dd about it. Kids seem to tolerate this girl and put up with her being a cow to them.

She's been telling ds "snitches get called bitches" which for an 8yo is also worth raising to the headmaster / teacher (ds is still 8, nearly 9 i got my heading wrong). 1 its bad language and 2 it shows she knows she is acting badly and trying to coerce ds into not telling on her.

Just complain to the school formally . I wouldn’t be hanging about for 5 minutes . The kid isn’t just bullying your son she’s bullying everyone and she needs to be stopped