Advice on 4 year old please

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My lo is 4 1/2 and for the last few months she's started being extremely badly behaved. She is lovely at school/dance class but when she leaves she goes absolutely mad! Today I picked her up and she started screaming, running into the road I had to carry her home it was so embarrassing. She seems to have lost all discipline and won't do anything asked. She bites, spits, punches and breaks things. This happens all day until bed time. I don't know what to do as I'm so exhausted by it all! I can't plan nice things because it ends up spoilt and I end up putting her to bed. I'm at a loss.

Have you spoken to her teachers about it? Is she eating enough and getting enough sleep? Any other big events /disruptions a few months ago?

She sleeps at least 12 hours on a night and will sleep 3/4 hours during the day if left. Yeah she's brilliant at nursery! She says she's tired sometimes.

That sounds like a lot of sleep to me. You need to be firm, not shout but explain. The good old notion of getting down to her level, firmly explaining that "we do not run unto the road because the cars are dangerous." Then ig she does it again, a 4 minute time out. Etc until she gets the picture. You cant just tell her no then let there be no consequences, she'll literally never learn that way. Shes testing boundarys. Choose your method of disapline and stick to it.

I do all that, I never let her do anything nice when she goes on like this, I tell her no, I send her to bed, to thinking time etc. Nothing is working. I worry she's just so tired she flips but how can she be? I think maybe a GP appointment?

Maybe shes bottling up feelings from nursery and letting them out with you? Maybe shes just testing the your limits now to see if she can get away with more stuff. Dd did this because she seen other kids getting away with it

That’s an awful lot of sleepiness. Could be a growth spurt, is that level of sleep normal for her or a new development?

She's always slept alot but I've been putting her to bed earlier lately as she's so tired and she's still getting up at the same time so maybe 1 or 2 hours more lately!

I would book an appointment regarding that level of tiredness in a child her age i think