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Feeling like a single parent

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Kylieemilyj · 08/06/2019 18:35

Honestly my baby is constantly wanting to feed but is content just shows hunger signs! He’s putting on weight and having plenty of dirty and wet nappies. I feel like I do it all though. In public my partner acts like the doting father, showing him off and holding him constantly but as soon as we are home he hides upstairs and leaves me to look after baby (or offers to have baby up with him, which doesn’t really help as he’s breast fed and he always falls asleep leaving baby on the bed and crying...) I do all the housework with the help of my mum who comes round most days to help me out. AIBU to resent my partner. Everyone acts like he’s such an amazing dad as he is in public but doesn’t do anything for him behind closed doors.

He does work full time and I’m on mat leave, but surely it’s not hard to just pick up your rubbish off the floor or quickly wash some dishes! He dumps his stuff down, and leaves empty packets and boxes around for me to sort out. Yes he’s a serious man child! I’m constantly in tears or on the verge of tears because I’m so exhausted (our baby is hard work) but I can’t sleep during the day because I have to do the housework and tidy up after him! Sorry if this rambling makes no sense I can’t remember the last time I slept!!

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Sexnotgender · 08/06/2019 18:37

What a prick.

Stop picking up after him for a start! You’re neither his maid nor his mother.

Do you love him?

Kylieemilyj · 08/06/2019 18:54

I do love him yes! If I don’t pick up after him then my house will just become a pile of his rubbish and general rubbish. There is boxes and wrappers from his latest online purchase all over my dining room, I’ve asked him to pick it all up but I’m still waiting!

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SaltK · 09/06/2019 09:28

I'm sorry your partner isn't being more supportive - this is such a difficult time, breastfeeding a new baby. He sounds like he's being very selfish. Was he always like this about the housework, or has he changed with the baby - maybe he's reacting to the responsibility by hiding away? That's a generous and understanding way to look at it - tbh, regardless of how hard he's finding it, he should be stepping up and supporting you. YANBU at all; working full time is not as hard as looking after a baby full time, and definitely isn't an excuse to do nothing. I'd have a very honest conversation about how hard he's making things; he's your partner and he loves you, so hopefully he will hear how much you need him to step up and things will change. Flowers

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