New mum wanting advice

[claire93]

Hi everyone

This is my first ever post

I am a new mum to a little baby girl she is three month old. As any new mum can imagine everything is a guessing game atm. My little girl is such a wonderful sweet and beautiful baby but she crys constantly and me and my partner go through the motions nappy,wind,soothing,tired,too hot too cold ect.. but she just seems to cry all the time. I have searched symptoms of colic and It doesn't match my daughter at all. I guess I'm asking do I need to see a doctor is it behavioural or does she just really like the sound of her own voice. She sleeps really well through the night and she doesn't smile a lot but when she wants to kind of thing. She flinches at most noises but health visitor says that's her reflexes. She seems fine health wise in general. And has a good routine. When she was born she was a very anxious baby as she was only 5lbs 11oz via c section. I guess what I'm asking is should I be worried or is this normal.haa I'm still learning. But am finding it very difficult atm.

What exactly is she doing when she's crying!? Has she been fed or is she down for a nap?

It's not behavioural lovely, they cry to communicate their needs so don't worry about that.

Little babes aren't born anxious but being new to a big world is very overwhelming for them(goggle 4th trimester) and the jumpy thing they do is a startle reflex and all babies have it and usually grow out of it within the first 6months.

Smiling takes hard work lol once they crack it, it's beautiful. Lots of silly faces, peekaboo, sing songs and chat.

You sound lovely and congratulations on your baby!

Colic is just when a baby cries a lot with no obvious cause so it sounds like your DD fits right in there.

No advice but it will get better with age. Maybe mention it to your HV, I wouldn't see the GP unless they ask you to.

And crying in a 3 month old is never going to be "behavioural". Relax, your daughter is perfectly normal.

Hi thank you. I'll have a good read on that. :) and when I'm feeding her if I take the bottle out to wind her she kicks off thrashed herself backwards until I give her the bottle back. But obviously I have to persevere through the crying to get her wind up. Also if she is in her bouncer she will be fine then just burst out crying. She does not like being held unless shes asleep haaa when we are out and about or visiting family she is good as gold it only seems to be an issue when we are at home.

Some babies just do cry a lot at this age, with no obvious cause. The best thing you can do is give lots of cuddles (do you have a sling). Wear ear plugs/ear defenders if the noise is stressing you out - I found that really helped.

If you feel really stressed, and need a break, ask someone else to come round and hold her for a bit, whilst you go for a short walk, or put ear plugs in and have a nap. If no-one is available to help, and you feel like you're going to snap, put her safely in her cot for a bit, and go downstairs until you feel calmer.

It 's tough having a cryer - I've been there, but I bet you're doing brilliantly.

Cross posted with you OP. How do you know she doesn't like being held? Does she stop crying if you put her down?

If she's happy to feed through and will take a bottle in one sitting, then let her do so. Sometimes when a baby gets hysterical mid feeding it can create more wind causing further agitation. Then try winding her at the end.

Maybe baby only tolerates bouncer for short time. Has she got toys or lights or jiggly things for her to grab at. Could she be bored/overtired? Mine was n her bouncer very little and she's 6months. Has she got a playmat so she can have some tummy time on?

Haaa thank you little cabbage for the ideas I was thinking about trying a sling. And the ear plugs sound great my partner struggles with the noise as he has autism but I'm quite laid back I just sought of take my mind elsewhere until I've managed to calm her down. She has a lovely rug in her room so sometimes I lay her on that and just take a breath outside her bedroom until I'm ready to try again ha it's really hard work but she is such a lovely little baby so it makes up for it.

Hi yes she has lots of toys on her play mat, bouncer and kindercraft seat. She loves playing with her toys and she gets fussy when I'm holding her but seem to calm down when she is put down. I dont think its bordem as she has loads of toys and loves playing with them. I'm always doing play time and tummy time trying to keep her brain active. And she is a really good sleeper. I'd say three to four good naps a day and seven to eight hours at night

Also she is a very sicky baby so I cant feed her the whole bottle as she would just sick it all back up. Many health visitors have told me to give her the bottle in one sitting and I tried a couple of times but she projectile vomited everywhere. She is on five ounce So I usually do two ounce wind. Three ounce wind.

Could it be reflux? Is she ok when being put down on her back!

Sling and dancing around / lots of walking kept me sane as my ds1 cried all the time he was awake. He was happiest being upright whilst awake!

Shes ok with laying on her back but I'm always really vigilant as she is sick a lot so could be reflux I think I'm defo gunna have to invest in a sling