Really don’t know what to do...

[Zebra256]

My DD is 15 months old and she breastfeeds to sleep at night and i also still feed her during the night in our bed.

My best friend is having her hen do and wedding in a couple of months and expects me to leave my DD overnight with my DH.

I don’t really know what to or say? I’ve never left her overnight before and I don’t know how it would go.

To be honest me & DH did say we wouldn’t stay out overnight seperately till she was at least 3 years old and DH has already turned down a few overnight events.

My friend doesn’t seem to understand what it’s like to have a baby and expects a lot from me when to me unfortunately family comes first.

I know there are a lot of people who can leave their babies over night at this age but it’s not an option for us right now.

Also quite a few people going on the hen do and staying the night before the wedding have babies younger than me and they don’t seem to have a problem with it.

What should i do?!

Just tell her. Be honest about it. I refuse to stay over at hen nights and my children are teenagers. I learnt the hard way with hen dos after I was expected to pay £100 to sleep in the same bed as a woman who I had never met and who was heavily pregnant. Go to the daytime / evening do and then leave when you want. Why are you so hung up about it?

Probably because she’s fallen out with me in the past when i have said no to thing 😔

Well she isn't a decent friend then. Have the confidence in your own choices that are not unreasonable on any level and certainly not amoral. If she can't handle you just going for part of it because of your child, then don't go to any of it. You don't have to be rude but do be confident. It's your child. Your decision. She sounds entitled.