Help me avoid ww3 this evening please.

[Whatastrawberryfool]

So, 13yo, not interested in school and disrupting others by playing the fool. No additional needs, very capable child has decided he just doesn't need to work in classes he has not chosen for GCSE. Was given a warning from me that any more negative communication from school would lead to no WiFi for a week. After a call from school today I am going through with this but how best? Calmly change password and explain he was warned already, or rant at how angry I am (I am!) And is this enough or do you have better / more effective punishments?
Nothing is getting through to him he really doesn't care about school at all.
Any words of wisdom gratefully received before I tackle this 😊 thanks

Change your network name to "You did it to yourself" and then change the password and then say nothing.

I would go for the clam approach and in fact would just turn it off without making a fuss. Wait for him to ask you why there is no WiFi then remind him of your warning.

Calm approach 🙄

Was going to ask what the clam approach was!
Agree with calm, and with changing your network name, too. IWarnedYouThisWouldHappen could work quite well.

Agree with calm, and with changing your network name, too. IWarnedYouThisWouldHappen could work quite well.

This.

Change the password. Don't say anything . Keep calm and ignore any tantrums . Remind him once that he was warned this is his consequence and if he keeps it up he'll be without internet for even longer. Then ignore,ignore,ignore and don't rise to the bait.

Thanks everyone, he seems remorseful so far but I fully expect that to change when he realises I'm not backing down. Not looking forward to the coming week.
Not sure where this awful attitude has come from but I'm very fed up with it, thanks for the support.

Don't change the network name. Just chnahe the password. When asked just remind him if what you said before.

Definitely the calm approach. Getting into an argument with a 13 year old is unlikely to end without one of you saying something you'll regret later.

Stay calm, let him have one tantrum then add a day to the ban for every other tantrum.

I would offer to help him with study planning or to find help for him elsewhere - as long as he asks for it. It is one thing to have a vague desire to do better in school but once a kid is in the habit of not doing any work it is very hard to start without really knowing how.

Can you ring the head of year/pastoral lead or whatever they are called in your son’s school and ask if they can find out from all his teachers how he is doing and then meet with your son and his head of year to discuss the issues. That way he knows school and home are united.

It’s not unusual at this time of year for yr 9s to lose the plot a little, especially if they haven’t started GCSEs yet.

Stick to your guns. And stay calm!! You need to teach responsibility, don't let their remorse remove the punishment.